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Although I've been on other sites for quite some time, I'm relatively new to SLS (less than a year). When I chose my preferences I didn't block anyone but it was just because I didn't choose the two options of "block" or "no". Just the option that I wasn't interested. Never actually thought one way or the other of the benefits of "networking" between other SMs.

In fact I really wasn't aware of the forums until I came across a cert from BT on a profile of a couple I was perving (lol) and when I clicked on his profile I saw all of his stellar certs from couples & females that he had the pleasure of spending time with. Of course cert jumping I read that he had gotten to know some of his "certs" thru the forums. Because BT had kept his profile open I was able to learn about this whole SLS underworld forum thing.

This may or may not be a good thing for the rest of you... and if you determine it to be a bad thing, you can blame it all on BT having his profile open to other SMs.

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Yea it is a problem for me as well. I have a group on here that caters to single male and cwhite couples. The problem is that single black males have their profiles blocked to me a single male. I just want to invite them into my groups......I just don't get it.

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Welcome Gage, like BT I leave my profile open to SMs and have had a few uninvited emails which were easily resolved with the block button. On the other hand, I've hosted more than a few women who were seeking an extra guy or three and finding other single guys is a lot easier when they are not in hiding.

Oh and I've had some of my certs email me asking if I knew so and so....I apologized and they laughed it off so again, no biggie.

For someone who enjoys hosting women for multiple guys, the advantages of having my profile open FAR outweigh any negatives.

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I'm thinking if you were from a tougher sounding town, people would leave you alone. -Sorry, I couldn't resist.

I remember being pissed the first time someone used my certs to contact someone I'd met. I was feeling a bit territorial, thinking this was dirty pool. Then, I realized that this is a no-strings world. So, single guys using my certs for marketing purposes?...Well, that's just being smart. Why re-invent the wheel when you can find SM-friendly folks that way? How can you blame them? If they handle themselves well, they might even get lucky, and make my friends very happy. Why wouldn't I want to foster that? Now, if I had an exclusive arrangement with any couples or SFs, I might care more, but I guess we wouldn't be on here in the first place, and they certainly wouldn't have certed me.

As for harassing these same folks, assholes tend to be assholes. The assholes will find your friends whether you "hide" them or not. Again, unless you're the ONLY SM with whom they play, a simple search will yield the SM-friendly folks and they're off to the races and their a-hole ways. If they're using your profile name as a bridge, as in "Joe sent me", a simple email from your friends to you would clear that right up and end any deception. I just happen to look at it differently. I've emailed SMs for advice and I've returned the favor. I've also had SMs send notes suggesting I contact their friends who are visiting and might make for an interesting evening, and I've returned that favor as well.

I guess if I had gay and Bi guys harassing me and blowing up my email, like you did, I might have to rethink my UN open profile philosophy. It's funny, but in 3 plus years on this site, I have never been harassed by, let alone approached by anyone gay or Bi, as far as I know or recall. Hmmm...I'm feeling a little hurt.

To each his own.

BT

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It is actually something that I do for good reason. First, there are a lot of gay and bi guys on these sites who troll for guys, gay or straight. Many of them think we're all gay and don't know it. They sometimes go as far as to harass. The second reason is that it is a tactic of many guys here to review another guys certs and then approach and or even harass the other guys friends. As far as being invited to single male parties.... No thanks, they always suck.

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I wasn't seeing the whole picture until I read your post. Good point, I'll see what unblocking does to my responses.

Luling LA
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Did someone mention Anchorage, AK? Hello!

Thanks Shel for the reference, I so miss you! MUAH!

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Thanks all for your comments and suggestions. I will try the profiles forum then...


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I agree with Shelly regarding spacing between paragraphs in any kind of text. Color is also important, and I find the page full of bright blue in a profile to be irritating. There's more I could say, but... If you want feedback on your profile, PHILIP901, start your own thread in the Better Profiles section. More people (none of us are experts, BTW) who are inclined to offer assistance will see it and you just might get several good ideas.

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Hi Philip901

On the topic, you are right ~~ Wingmen with awesome SF friends are a great reason for SM's to NOT block each other. Mr Uriah and I met courtesy of a mutual SM friend who thought we would hit it off when I visited Memphis. :)

Re: your profile, though I am no expert in profile content -I don't think that your profile is too long. I actually prefer profiles that are not a "book" {UNLESS they are an entertaining one... like my buddy Bridgetender21 profile is}. I am a big fan of font and spacing that makes it easy for my mature eyes to read.

If you'd like more input, I recommend the "Better Profiles" forum where you can post a comment to obtain feedback from the readers there if you are updating your profile.

Shelly

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