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User Details are only visible to members.	For me it's about the experience. If the initial contact sparks an interest there is a good chance I'll want to chat and then meet. I know what attracts me and if it's not there I'll respectfully decline the offer. Those who believe that all single males are desperate and will do anything or anyone to get laid are misinformed in my opinion. I'll continue to be selective by choice as I enjoy the lifestyle and the new experiences that it brings.
North Bloomfield OH			Username hidden (802 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Orion, I agree with you. Go ahead and be picky. It's your choice. I disagree with PP about leaving out certain adjectives. Describe yourself as you wish. I for one, appreciate generous, clean, and disease free. I can't imagine taking his advice to go against your own desires. As many people will be turned on by your selectiveness as turned off - likely more. I for one believe that one should never vote against your own body. I find that my body knows much more than I do. It may pick up on subtle things that my consciousness may not realize until much later.
Lubbock TX			Username hidden (369 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well again, it all comes to down giving a chance, right? Chemistry, nice person, gentleman, how can someone decide, just by reading a profile. So if couples keep rejecting SM's just by reading profile, how right is that? I have had way better luck in a clubs than via mails, that is only because at least, people get to interact. Been here long enough to understand for private hook up is all about the pic/pics that you have on your profile. But hey, i am not complaining. That's the way it is. I have rejected a few, depending on timings/lack of attraction, luckily till now have not received a hate mail yet (fingers crossed)!! Its just that i have emailed most of the people within my "driving distance". So have very few couples/SF's left to mail. :) I am only talking about couples to SM's, coz that is the only perspective i have of this LS. Dont have the luxury of playing as a couple. :)
Garland TX			Username hidden (70 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thank you Mrs. Sav. I really do appreciate that. And clearly YOU have class. Because it takes one to know one. lol Trooperandpirategirl, EXACTLY my point!
Alloway NJ			Username hidden (17 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You can not "create chemistry" its either there or its not.
Louisville KY			Username hidden (14172 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Orion, I respect that you have standards and pick and chose with whom to play. Many forget you're a human being not just a dildo with a heart beat. Everyone has a type or preference and when you step beyond that to something you right up front you are not attracted to things aren't going to turn out well. Hold your standards high. I'd rather meet a man who turns down 90% of offers than one who plays with 90% of anything offered. You can't teach class ! Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4448 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	partyperks847, ty for your advice based on your experience in the lifestyle. However, I would have to object to a couple of things. Your first advice, though understandable, (you can't judge a book by it's cover) is a double standard. These cpls were attracted to me and wanted to see if I would be interested in playing with them. Thats different from "hey,want to talk and just get to know each other?" Believe it or not, guys, even SM's have types. Of course 9 times out of 10, SM's would have to settle. But I wasn't attracted to the female, so how is that supposed to work, when my friend down there CAN'T WORK? AND IT"S NOT MY FAULT? Like Every One says on here "I'm not gonna take one for the team" and besides, whose team is that? I'm a SM, remember? Plus on here, profiles and pics matter a lot, unless your meeting them at a M&G or club. Second, I never use "Demand" in my vocabulary. But I WILL when I need to. As I said, I understand how the "LS politics" works. The females are either single or in cpls are on top. Hell, even the cheating wifes are higher than us because males and cpls tend to look away when it comes to that so they can get their "unicorn." lol BUT THEY CAME TO ME. And I, as I said, RESPECTFULLY rejected them. And they returned with hate mail. So yeah, I "demand" respect, because they came to me. I'm not going to kick the doors in and demand respect, but it's different when you come to me. Like I said, I'm not the type to bow down and "know my place" like a good little puppy dog and kiss your feet. Now you can go on about how I'll never get as much "play time" on here, but I learned very early on in this LS (thats also good in life in general) "quality over quantity". Mutual attraction is always the best. So I guess I'll be stubborn, but just to let you know there are cpls who've read this thread, looked at my profile, and were impressed (especially for a young male)enough to actually email me that they are on my side, wish more SM were like me, and that it was quite refreshing to read a good thought out profile. So you can call it facts, but I'll call it a matter of opinion.
Alloway NJ			Username hidden (17 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Just a few thoughts, based on 12 years in the lifestyle and currently operating 4 clubs all of which welcome single gentlemen. 1st...It is always ok to reject anyone, couple of otherwise you are not comfortable with, however, I am a big advocate of the possibility that the experience can create chemistry as opposed to the opposite, so you may want to look beyond a profile pic before slamming the door. Looking for a 9 or 10 and passing by the humble yet fun and sexy 6 or 7 is usually a scenario which lands you watching Cinimax alone at 2AM 2nd...As a single male..in terms of the lifestyle, remove the word "demand" from your vocabulary. For good or for bad you have entered a lifestyle which is still, (no matter what other may tell you) primarily a couples domain where the single female is a notch above you in the pecking order and the single guy, just in terms of supply and demand, you are in no position to "demand" anything. Don't shoot the messenger, I'm just telling you the way it is 3rd...The less you "Demand" the more you are likely to get, in terms of respect, fun and play. In our orientation and screening process we tells guys, be they newbies or experienced, the most successful guys in the lifestyle are those who come with no preconceived expectations, and this goes for the private hook up ,scene as well as the club scene 4th...As a single guy, remove the terms "Respectful" "Clean" "Courteous" "Generous" "Disease free" and your sexual prowess and the fact you have a penis and it's size from your resume. These are the basic requirements to be a functional adult in the lifestyle, and essentially, make you, (pardon my candor) a dime a dozen. You already have the handicap of not bringing a partner to the table, (unless you are willing to settle for and limit yourself couples who only seek single guys) so let people know what else you can bring to the table. 5th...When meeting a couple or single lady, ALWAYS...I'll say again...ALWAYS insist on covering the majority of the expenses for the evening. If it is discussed and a split is decided on fine, but ALWAYS offer. ANY couple worth being with will respect and in fact, expect that. THIS is how you gain the respect you are looking for as a single guy in the lifestyle There are the cold hard facts, If you want a woman with low self esteem who will blow smoke up your butt and tell you that you are an equal partner because you and she says you are, Or guys with a false sense of entitlement who will tell you to kick doors in and DEMAND respect who will in one breath tell you how often they are blown off, and on the other tell you how their dance card is always full....they are out there, and you can fined them right here in these forums....but upon further investigation, you will generally see they have few if any certs, and 25,000 posts in the forums, which makes one wonder who they are actually playing with, and when they would have time to begin with....best of luck
Elk Grove Village IL			Username hidden (2957 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We have had single males not answer emails from us and just keep it moving. Our issue is this, while I am straight and my wife enjoys being the center of attention She knows what she likes physically in a man and if there is a profile that seems to be a good fit we will reach out, making sure that the male states he is straight is looking for a couple. But Most do not reply back so I wonder about the honesty of their add for one and two we noticed that if her pictures of ass and tits are posted for everyone to see Single men fall from the sky and we have to beat them off with a stick because they dont read the profile, the pics did the trick. when we were on CL there we recieved over 300 emails within hours of posting. Most of them were just DICK PICKS with no information and the others were one line shots like "whats up" and "She is hot" and lastly young men who had to be between the ages of 18-22 which is just TOOOO young for her, She is a Hot MILF but we have kids older than that. Rejection we take in stride and do not make a big deal out of it. We will not cyber stock anyone and feel if the right situation comes along then its worth waiting for.
Fairburn GA			Username hidden (54 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Agreed with the OP!
Garland TX			Username hidden (70 post)

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