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Of course attraction is important, but as many of those of us who are actually in the lifestyle as opposed to those who use swing sites sites as a pic dump and coffee clutch understand and have expeirinced and understand is that in situations and scenarios attraction can evolve and change from situation to situation. Fakes and posers would have no way of knowing this. As to your situation only you know what works for you. All i can yell you is that in 12 years in the lifestyle and 4 years as a club owner, i see guys stand on principle and end up on the sidelines saying " I showed them" and going home with blue balls. Dont be that guy

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Lmao, Mrs.Sav!!!! Completely agree with your point! ATTRACTION IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT PARTS OF CHEMISTRY! Or at least the kind pertaining to you wanting to have sex with them. Lol

And once again partyperks, I KNOW THE REALITY OF THE DEMOGRAPHICS!! It was in the context of what I wrote from my second sentence. But despite that i take that into comsideration, still.....I... Don't really care....lol I think me being a lil choosy or having standards already separates me from a lot of single males out there. Then there's presentation from my profile. It's anything BUT a few cliche and typical sentences such as " I love sex. I'm good in bed. I'm looking for fun, etc." another thing that I was complimented on was me not having the usual "cock pic" with no face pic at all in my profile.

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Yes chemistry....you know that drunk feeling you get in a dark room with a bunch of unattractive people bowling naked and suddenly the urge over takes you and you think "what the hell, why not?"

Pfftt!

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"You can not "create chemistry" its either there or its not" Trooperandpirategirl..I respectfully but strongly disagree. Sometimes the scene and the scenario create the chemistry, as opposed to the reverse.

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orionvv9 ...I completly understand what you are saying, but in the immortal wors of Tom Berenger..."There's the way things ought to be, and then there's reality" I never suggested single guys "Know their place", only that they understand the reality of the demographics. A woman 5'3 and 300 pounds could put an add in Craig's list with an actual pic of herself inviting guys to meet her at room 143 at the Motel 6, and 50 guys would show up. By the same token, 6'3 inch 195 pound Johnny Wellhung could post the same ad, and end up alone watching TV and eating Pizza. For my major 2 day events, I get anywhere from 75 to 100 single guys asking to attend, generally 30 to 40% of the non VIP members and Non regulars get in What's the criteria? The ones who get the ok, are the ones that somehow set themselves apart and convince up they can bring something special to the table.

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"..I've come across a few couples where the husband gave off vibes that made me steer clear even though i was very attracted to the wife." -----

Same here. It's the single most reason I've replied, 'Thanks, but I don't think we're a fit'.

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Soul mates_42, I'm the same way when I rejected them, which is why I was VERY CAREFUL with my wording. I'm not a douche bag or a jerk with a big ego so why should I sound like one?

"SM's go through a phases like everyone else in the lifestyle. When I first started, I was like a kid in a candy shop and wanted to fuck someone new everyday."

Fun_ahoy, I must've missed that phase. Lol

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"but a straight SM rejection was imo solely directed at me."

You might think so, but that's not entirely correct in every case. I've come across a few couples where the husband gave off vibes that made me steer clear even though i was very attracted to the wife. 

As for the more general question in the OP, SMs go through phases  just like everyone else in the lifestyle. When I first started, I was like a kid in a candy shop and wanted to fuck someone new every day. More recently, I've been limiting my playtime to couples I've known for awhile and to a few single fuckbuddies. I even changed my profile to discourage new contacts. No one should take it personally. 

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We (I) have been rejected twice by a single male. Both times they seemed reluctant to say "not interested" and I told them both the same thing...it's OK to say thanks but no. I get it. I'm not every guys type. I have curves and there's more of me to hold onto than some guys prefer. I don't take it personally and respect guys who are honest enough to say how they feel. jmo

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Tit for tat,,, for whatever reason, it is your reason to reject, or to be rejected.

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