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Created by: orionvv9 Original Starting post for this thread:
This is more of a rant than anything else. I've been on this site for a few months months now, and in the first WEEK, noticed the obvious: single males are treated like the lowest of the low. Why? because a lot of them are weirdos, jerks, assholes, creepers, the list go's on. And thus, we're ALL treated like shit. And when couples want a single male to, a lot (not all) of them think to themselves "this guy should feel lucky to be considered to be a part of our fantasies." And they think you'd never reject them. Yeah, nine times out of ten, that would be correct. But I have (respectfully) rejected two couples, because I wasn't attracted to the females. They were both pissed, of course. One in particular said "how can you reject us? Your no catch yourself. Your lucky a couple even wants your sorry ass! Especially for your age! All you single males are the same. Full of disappointment!" I, of course, blocked them after that. but it made me laugh. I know I'm anything BUT a model, and I'm even more limited considering my young age. But just because I'm a single male doesn't mean I can't be at least a little selective either? If your not attracted to someone, then that's it. It is what it is. We all have preferences, some FAR TOO MANY! But to each his own. But just because I'm a single male, doesn't mean I'm going to get on my knees "know my place" and kiss your feet. I'm a person too, and I show respect to everyone I meet, so at the very least, I demand the same!

Created by: orionvv9
Original Starting post for this thread:

This is more of a rant than anything else. I've been on this site for a few months months now, and in the first WEEK, noticed the obvious: single males are treated like the lowest of the low. Why? because a lot of them are weirdos, jerks, assholes, creepers, the list go's on. And thus, we're ALL treated like shit. And when couples want a single male to, a lot (not all) of them think to themselves "this guy should feel  lucky to be considered to be a part of our fantasies." And they think you'd never reject them. Yeah, nine times out of ten, that would be correct. But I have (respectfully) rejected two couples, because I wasn't attracted to the females. They were both pissed, of course. One in particular said "how can you reject us? Your no catch yourself. Your lucky a couple even wants your sorry ass! Especially for your age! All you single males are the same. Full of disappointment!" I, of course, blocked them after that. but it made me laugh. I know I'm anything BUT a model, and I'm even more limited considering my young age. But just because I'm a single male doesn't mean I can't be at least a little selective either? If your not attracted to someone, then that's it. It is what it is. We all have preferences, some FAR TOO MANY! But to each his own. But just because I'm a single male, doesn't mean I'm going to get on my knees "know my place" and kiss your feet. I'm a person too, and I show respect to everyone I meet, so at the very least, I demand the same!

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User Details are only visible to members.	PS...Having read your profile, I don't think I am telling YOU anything you don't already know, thyere are others however who could benifit bfrom both reading your profile, and my words of "wisdom"
Elk Grove Village IL			Username hidden (2614 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Orionvv9...Don't misunderstand...courteous and mutually respectful of course should be a requirement...what I am talking about if the attitude of some SM , which you need look no further than these Fora to find, that they are somehow "entitled" to all the perks and advantages of being that single guy, with none of the (dare I say it?) extra responsibilities and consideration that inherently come with it. Like it of not, you are a guest ion a couple's relationship and sexuality among tens of thousands who would go to great lengths to be there in your place, a little humility goes a long way. You can ignore that and find enablers...but personally, i don't find desperation and lack of respect for one's relationship and self esteem attractive. If the couple has standards beyond your pretty face length and girth...that is a GOOD thing.
Elk Grove Village IL			Username hidden (2614 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well in your eyes, Mr. Party, I'll be a fake/poser. Because with this type of situation, everyone has a type or types that they like, and even though we can have situations in which we'll click, it just might be to the extent of being good friends...which to me and many others, is still a good thing. And as far as being "that guy", first off, if someone or ppl aren't being courteous and mutually respectful to you as a person when coming up to you, then yeah, I MIGHT have that "I showed them" type of attitude. You can fuck someone who doesn't respect you and your not attracted to them in hopes of being attracted to them.......eventually??.....maybe?? But, like I said, I'll gladly take my chances. Just without the blue balls, because I definitely don't have that problem lol
Alloway NJ			Username hidden (17 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Basically I think the resident self proclaim party thrower expert summed it quit nicely. At the end of the day you have to ask yourself "Did I come here specifically to get laid ?" or "Did I come here hoping to meet like minded people with the possibility of making a connection" If you answered yes to the first question the answer is quit simple, any hole that is offered is better than no hole at all and you should be grateful. If you answered no to the first question it you understand it is awesome to make the right connection and it is ok to go home alone. Not all men are defined by their penis, not all will have sex with anything that is offered and not all men suddenly become blind , deaf and dumb when the lights go out. It is my bet that Mr Party has in his opinion settled his whole live with women who were less than he felt he deserved but better than he should ever have possibly attracted. I can hear him rationalizing with himself " so I don't feel chemistry , so what she isn't my type, so what if I'm not attracted to her, so she is a dimwit BIG DEAL, I ll do her a favor and make her feel good about her by using her body so I don't have to jerk off" No harm no foal and no hand cramps. For those of you who don't fall into that category I applaud you, respect you and wish you happiness and success. Everyone else head to PP's party where everyone gets laid because if you don't put out they put you out. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4105 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Of course attraction is important, but as many of those of us who are actually in the lifestyle as opposed to those who use swing sites sites as a pic dump and coffee clutch understand and have expeirinced and understand is that in situations and scenarios attraction can evolve and change from situation to situation. Fakes and posers would have no way of knowing this. As to your situation only you know what works for you. All i can yell you is that in 12 years in the lifestyle and 4 years as a club owner, i see guys stand on principle and end up on the sidelines saying " I showed them" and going home with blue balls. Dont be that guy
Elk Grove Village IL			Username hidden (2614 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Lmao, Mrs.Sav!!!! Completely agree with your point! ATTRACTION IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT PARTS OF CHEMISTRY! Or at least the kind pertaining to you wanting to have sex with them. Lol And once again partyperks, I KNOW THE REALITY OF THE DEMOGRAPHICS!! It was in the context of what I wrote from my second sentence. But despite that i take that into comsideration, still.....I... Don't really care....lol I think me being a lil choosy or having standards already separates me from a lot of single males out there. Then there's presentation from my profile. It's anything BUT a few cliche and typical sentences such as " I love sex. I'm good in bed. I'm looking for fun, etc." another thing that I was complimented on was me not having the usual "cock pic" with no face pic at all in my profile.
Alloway NJ			Username hidden (17 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Yes chemistry....you know that drunk feeling you get in a dark room with a bunch of unattractive people bowling naked and suddenly the urge over takes you and you think "what the hell, why not?" Pfftt! Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4105 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"You can not "create chemistry" its either there or its not" Trooperandpirategirl..I respectfully but strongly disagree. Sometimes the scene and the scenario create the chemistry, as opposed to the reverse.
Elk Grove Village IL			Username hidden (2614 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	orionvv9 ...I completly understand what you are saying, but in the immortal wors of Tom Berenger..."There's the way things ought to be, and then there's reality" I never suggested single guys "Know their place", only that they understand the reality of the demographics. A woman 5'3 and 300 pounds could put an add in Craig's list with an actual pic of herself inviting guys to meet her at room 143 at the Motel 6, and 50 guys would show up. By the same token, 6'3 inch 195 pound Johnny Wellhung could post the same ad, and end up alone watching TV and eating Pizza. For my major 2 day events, I get anywhere from 75 to 100 single guys asking to attend, generally 30 to 40% of the non VIP members and Non regulars get in What's the criteria? The ones who get the ok, are the ones that somehow set themselves apart and convince up they can bring something special to the table.
Elk Grove Village IL			Username hidden (2614 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"..I've come across a few couples where the husband gave off vibes that made me steer clear even though i was very attracted to the wife." ----- Same here. It's the single most reason I've replied, 'Thanks, but I don't think we're a fit'.
Emeryville CA			Username hidden (12140 post)

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