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"..I've come across a few couples where the husband gave off vibes that made me steer clear even though i was very attracted to the wife." -----

Same here. It's the single most reason I've replied, 'Thanks, but I don't think we're a fit'.

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Soul mates_42, I'm the same way when I rejected them, which is why I was VERY CAREFUL with my wording. I'm not a douche bag or a jerk with a big ego so why should I sound like one?

"SM's go through a phases like everyone else in the lifestyle. When I first started, I was like a kid in a candy shop and wanted to fuck someone new everyday."

Fun_ahoy, I must've missed that phase. Lol

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"but a straight SM rejection was imo solely directed at me."

You might think so, but that's not entirely correct in every case. I've come across a few couples where the husband gave off vibes that made me steer clear even though i was very attracted to the wife. 

As for the more general question in the OP, SMs go through phases  just like everyone else in the lifestyle. When I first started, I was like a kid in a candy shop and wanted to fuck someone new every day. More recently, I've been limiting my playtime to couples I've known for awhile and to a few single fuckbuddies. I even changed my profile to discourage new contacts. No one should take it personally. 

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We (I) have been rejected twice by a single male. Both times they seemed reluctant to say "not interested" and I told them both the same thing...it's OK to say thanks but no. I get it. I'm not every guys type. I have curves and there's more of me to hold onto than some guys prefer. I don't take it personally and respect guys who are honest enough to say how they feel. jmo

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Tit for tat,,, for whatever reason, it is your reason to reject, or to be rejected.

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Well again, it all comes to down giving a chance, right?

Chemistry, nice person, gentleman, how can someone decide, just by reading a profile. So if couples keep rejecting SM's just by reading profile, how right is that?

I have had way better luck in a clubs than via mails, that is only because at least, people get to interact.

Been here long enough to understand for private hook up is all about the pic/pics that you have on your profile. But hey, i am not complaining. That's the way it is. I have rejected a few, depending on timings/lack of attraction, luckily till now have not received a hate mail yet (fingers crossed)!! Its just that i have emailed most of the people within my "driving distance". So have very few couples/SF's left to mail. :)

I am only talking about couples to SM's, coz that is the only perspective i have of this LS. Dont have the luxury of playing as a couple. :)

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Thank you Mrs. Sav. I really do appreciate that. And clearly YOU have class. Because it takes one to know one. lol Trooperandpirategirl, EXACTLY my point!

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You can not "create chemistry" its either there or its not.

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Orion, I respect that you have standards and pick and chose with whom to play. Many forget you're a human being not just a dildo with a heart beat. Everyone has a type or preference and when you step beyond that to something you right up front you are not attracted to things aren't going to turn out well. Hold your standards high. I'd rather meet a man who turns down 90% of offers than one who plays with 90% of anything offered. You can't teach class !

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partyperks847, ty for your advice based on your experience in the lifestyle. However, I would have to object to a couple of things.

Your first advice, though understandable, (you can't judge a book by it's cover) is a double standard. These cpls were attracted to me and wanted to see if I would be interested in playing with them. Thats different from "hey,want to talk and just get to know each other?" Believe it or not, guys, even SM's have types. Of course 9 times out of 10, SM's would have to settle. But I wasn't attracted to the female, so how is that supposed to work, when my friend down there CAN'T WORK? AND IT"S NOT MY FAULT? Like Every One says on here "I'm not gonna take one for the team" and besides, whose team is that? I'm a SM, remember? Plus on here, profiles and pics matter a lot, unless your meeting them at a M&G or club.

Second, I never use "Demand" in my vocabulary. But I WILL when I need to. As I said, I understand how the "LS politics" works. The females are either single or in cpls are on top. Hell, even the cheating wifes are higher than us because males and cpls tend to look away when it comes to that so they can get their "unicorn." lol BUT THEY CAME TO ME. And I, as I said, RESPECTFULLY rejected them. And they returned with hate mail. So yeah, I "demand" respect, because they came to me. I'm not going to kick the doors in and demand respect, but it's different when you come to me. Like I said, I'm not the type to bow down and "know my place" like a good little puppy dog and kiss your feet.

Now you can go on about how I'll never get as much "play time" on here, but I learned very early on in this LS (thats also good in life in general) "quality over quantity". Mutual attraction is always the best. So I guess I'll be stubborn, but just to let you know there are cpls who've read this thread, looked at my profile, and were impressed (especially for a young male)enough to actually email me that they are on my side, wish more SM were like me, and that it was quite refreshing to read a good thought out profile.

So you can call it facts, but I'll call it a matter of opinion.

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