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TOPIC: Single Men-First Contact
Created by: ChasnGwen
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I have a question for the successful single men in the lifestyle. For the most part, have you initiated contact with the ladies you have a FWB relationship with or did they contact you?
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Once in a while, I like a "grabby neanderthal"..... {sigh}

Oh wait, that's just role-playing. {Blush} Yes. Gentlemen preferred. Lol

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My experience has been pretty even in me initiating contact or being contacted. I think if you have more than just a couple lines in both your profile and an initiating message that can express your ability to string a few words together then you are much more likely to get a favorable response or to be contacted. In both I make sure they are aware that I am a gentleman and treat everyone as such. Everyone knows women rule in the lifestyle and your best bet is to assuage any concern for them that you are a grabby neanderthal and will treat them respectfully. Also if initiating contact I talk to both the Husband and Wife.

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Hello,

As a new single member I feel that you have to be patient. SLS is no different then when you go to a bar and buy a pretty lady a drink and talk to her. As you are getting her excited by building rapport and getting her aroused, she bolts for the door with a lame explanation. Everyone has been there! If after a couple of emails things don't workout then move on. Just by paying a couple of dollars for a membership doesn't mean that it will be automatic.

For every exchange you have learn and once you finally hookup with the right partner it will that more enjoyable. Just a newbie take.

Joe

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I figured you couldn't see his profile, since there is that no interest=block thing.

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And that's what happens when I assume! I was blinded by the SM block...and dressed up like a douche.

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That was in reference to BT's comment.

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I knew he was not a free member. Ergo he wouldn't be able to pay. My post was more in reference to his desire for free members to be allowed to cert people, him for instance.

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He has a paid membership, cert, and one public pic ;) yes I looked. And I read. Profile was actually pretty good until the bottom where it got negative.

A little thing about those interest bars, if you take them to no interest it acts as a block. Sad but true. So while we are on break I have to show interest just so my friends can still perv my pics and email me.

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I don't want to sound like a racist, but I think its because you're blue. When I was blue, people steered clear of me, too.

Though, I think Kibbs is more correct. Its the cheapness of the free membership for a SM. It makes people instantly suspicious. Why wouldn't a guy spend $29 to meet potential playmates? Oh, and yes, there CAN be a double standard for free SF and Couples accounts, simply because they have tacos and we only have sausages, and tacos are like manna from heaven.

So, to paraphrase Dean Wormer, Blue, cheap, and suspicious is no way to go through the LS, son.

BT

Just my 2 cents

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I cannot comment on why you don't seem to be "closing the deal", but I can answer why free members cannot cert. It's quite simple: there's nothing to verify a free member, that's why they do not have access to nude pics, etc. For all anyone knows the profile may have been opened by am overly hormonal 14 yr old boy. An unverified person cannot then certify the authenticity of another profile and the person behind it because their own authenticity isn't certain..... Not to mention that is free members were given all the same perks/advantages of paid members, where would the incentive be to purchase paid membership?

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