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TOPIC: How to approach a couple

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Being (part of) a couple, normally I'm not much interested in the single perspective, but something happend this weekend at the club that made me wonder. This single guy approached (somewhat furtively) Ms. Content and asked her whether I would be interested in having him watch while she and I had sex. Being an angle I hadn't thought of, I stared to wonder what other "techniques" single guys use in their efforts to get some action in places such as swing clubs. I have always felt that it must be an uphill battle for single guys in the swinging world, and in a way I admire those who persevere in what must be a largely unwelcoming environment for them. So I guess my question is, have any of you single guys figured a relatively successful strategy for approaching couples? Just curious... Mr. Content

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Being (part of) a couple, normally I'm not much interested in the single perspective, but something happend this weekend at the club that made me wonder. This single guy approached (somewhat furtively) Ms. Content and asked her whether I would be interested in having him watch while she and I had sex. Being an angle I hadn't thought of, I stared to wonder what other "techniques" single guys use in their efforts to get some action in places such as swing clubs. I have always felt that it must be an uphill battle for single guys in the swinging world, and in a way I admire those who persevere in what must be a largely unwelcoming environment for them. So I guess my question is, have any of you single guys figured a relatively successful strategy for approaching couples? Just curious...

Mr. Content

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User Details are only visible to members.	I tell singles: talk to a couple like you would talk to a girl at a bar! I have NO IDEA how they will converse with a woman in a bar as if they are interested in her views, opinions, etc. and will get online with me and say some crazy shit like "nice tits, sure would like to F*** em". AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! lol. If you like fishing, talk to Jay about fishing. Nascar. Talk to me like I do have a brain. I'm NOT saying dating. But shit, don't treat me like I am a stupid, uneducated airhead who just wants to give away free sex. Its NOT a hard concept to grasp. If you talk to us like you talk to everyone else you will be fine. Shelly
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23665 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mmmmmmmmmmm! Double the fun!
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (8590 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	we have two of them. one is better for close ups.
Lake Worth FL			Username hidden (7209 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mmmmmmmmmmmmm! She can always operate the video camera??????
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (8590 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Raven, You can approach me anytime. Karen just wants to watch.
Lake Worth FL			Username hidden (7209 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	For us Unicorns, the opposite is true. Always approach the female half first and see how you click. If things are going well, she will introduce you to her male half with a smile... RaveN (:~
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User Details are only visible to members.	There is no strategy. You tell the couple the truth. They read what you say and look at your pictures and I guess they go from there. Don
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User Details are only visible to members.	I would have to agree with Friendly. Another thing would be to make friends with club regulars, even if it's non-sexual. And don't be shy to ask them if they know any couples looking for your type. I have had many couples introduce me to couples or ladies looking for my type. Also I have some friends who are single guys who from time to time call me concerning a couple looking for a single guy like myself. I guess networking is really important. But having a good reputation in a club can go a long way when approaching a couple as well.
Arlington TX			Username hidden (2285 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I used to be a regular at a swingers bar. Generally the times that I have been with a couple was just me being friendly and social. I would always start with a Hi, how you doing, and I would talk to both of the couple, not just the woman. It would usually start with just simple talk. The men that give single men in swinging a bad name are the ones that treat swinging as a way just to get laid. I'm not in the kind of shape uriah is, but I have still have had my success in swinging. Sitting down and just looking at everyone and not engaging in the social aspect gets you nothing. Being pushy, rude, and obnoxious is even worse. Engage the couple, spark their interest and be polite, respectful, and social works well 90% of the time. Accept the no thank you and move on. Sometimes even having drinks or the couple helps. The times that men get rejected they forgot the important part of the couple, the husband. Most couples only play with men they can agree on, not the first swinging dick that approaches them. Just going up and saying you want to party isn't an opening line, it's a I'm a reject notice. Though some may disagree with me, there is definitely a social aspect to swinging.
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User Details are only visible to members.	I used to be a regular at a swingers bar. Generally the times that I have been with a couple was just me being friendly and social. I would always start with a Hi, how you doing, and I would talk to both of the couple, not just the woman. It would usually start with just simple talk. The men that give single men in swinging a bad name are the ones that treat swinging as a way just to get laid. I'm not in the kind of shape uriah is, but I have still have had my success in swinging. Sitting down and just looking at everyone and not engaging in the social aspect gets you nothing. Being pushy, rude, and obnoxious is even worse. Engage the couple, spark their interest and be polite, respectful, and social works well 90% of the time. Accept the no thank you and move on. Sometimes even having drinks or the couple helps. The times that men get rejected they forgot the important part of the couple, the husband. Most couples only play with men they can agree on, not the first swinging dick that approaches them. Just going up and saying you want to party isn't an opening line, it's a I'm a reject notice. Though some may disagree with me, there is definitely a social aspect to swinging.
Palm Beach Gardens FL			Username hidden (188 post)

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