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TOPIC: How do you filter bad sex
Created by: BBWBlackgirl
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Soooo.....Im new to all of this. For some reason I thought I was going to have mind blowing sex with everyone one I encountered. So that didnt happen. LAUGHING AT MYSELF and my fantasies of the lifestyle. So what do you do when in the mist of the meet its just not happening, especially when it was over in 1.5 minutes..(i truly. Had the thought, should have had a V8) do you grab your clothes or lay there and try again????? Just seemed so awkward with just me and him. I got promises of orgasms but what I got was an epic fail..do. say something if he contacks me? Or duck and hide????? #HELP

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Thanks @GF..trying to work it out

Union NJ
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1.5 minutes..........DA FUCK? It this happened at a house party or event and I was present......I would've literally tried not to laugh. Well, I hope it didnt look like he was having a seize on you. lol I have the opposite problem. I was with this one woman and after 45 min+(estimation, really. I don't time myself) after she came 3 times then answered her cell phone while still in the act. Then when she got off, she asked how much longer I was going to be? I have to admit, it was a little embarrassing and appalling! lol I took that personally and admittedly overreacted to which I never answered her emails anymore. But I did recently looked at her profile in which she updated it saying that she wants a guy with huge amounts of stamina that can at least last a half hr. lol

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well your profile is pretty good at telling guys what you seek now :)

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"the Y"...thats new!!!.LOL..i had to change my profile and be very specific about my expectations...visting the Y and being knowledgeble of the area, number 1 on the list!!!

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BBWBlackgirl -- well you've quickly learned the dirty little secret of the lifestyle, a lot of men aren't very good at it. Like you, I expected mind blowing experiences and was so surprised to learn that despite my perception that men are obsessed with sex, the majority aren't very experienced, creative, or generous. However, like the lovely Ms Gwen pointed out, you will learn to do a better job of trusting your gut and screening potential play partners. Have patience and don't settle. You'll find the right FWB.

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Well if he does not eat at the "Y" then throw his ass to the curb, no room any where for that kind of selfish style of womanizing. Oh well, less competition for the rest of us I guess!

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Lol @ 2try...your plan of blowing him not a good one because he does not reciprocate. He didnt tell me this little tidbit until we met. So I was not vested in a major BJ knowing this and low stamina. Not that stopped him sticking his penis in my face with "you know what to do"....LMAO i finally had to tell him today thanks but no thanks we are not compatible.

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Most of the replies you've received so far seem spot on with regard to spend some quality time finding the person's personality & experience. You've always got to trust your gut instinct, first! I've experienced some mind-blowing (as well as other parts.lol) "dates", and some that are fun, but just not the right chemistry. If you filter out some of the questionable ones, you'll be more relaxed and have fun even if there is less fire than spark.

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Nope, I did my time as a Den Mother. No cubs for me. I want a Pack Leader who knows what he is doing and can do it till I'm worn out!

Visalia CA
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Aw c'mon rowdy! Poor guy will never get better without practice!

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TOPIC: How do you filter bad sex