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TOPIC: How Do I Find a Couple, Trio, or Full-Swap to JUST LET ME WATCH
Created by: tallandcurvy
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i have been reading these forums for a few hours now, and i'm not finding the topic i need, so sorry if this redundant. if that's the case, kindly point me in the right direction?

i have to say, it's nice to read there are so many in the same boat as me, though...having trouble finding someone to help take my swinging virginity. how am i supposed to know if i am a 'unicorn' if i never get the chance to take the first step?

i know taking on a newbie is hard for some. but i am no game-player, tease, or drama queen. i am emotionally available to people (almost) immediately...yes that get's me in trouble sometimes, but i'm used to it...and have a very keen self-awareness. have i say EXACTLY what's on my mind. i ask very direct questions and tell the absolute truth without use of euphemisms or concern about what someone's *gentile nature* might find too raunchy for having just met. i don't see the point of lots of small talk. SO, i think i am perfect to bring into your bedroom to watch how this all goes down before i decide if i want to dive in.

i have been told i should tone these qualities down and 'play the game,' but i resist, because where would that leave me? i am who i am. and my friends and family love me for it. but, to be clear, it's not like i have zero charm or charisma (as it may come across in writing)...people LOVE me way more often than they are turned off by me. :)

is the answer going to a club and getting mobbed? that's what i hear happens to single women there, and i tend to be very claustrophobic in crowds.

help? know anyone near me who can accommodate? i only have private pics, but can assure i am a very pretty woman...have been described as 'striking' and told i have a 'penetrating presence.' thanks, t/c

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thank you for the discussion. i appreciate the help! :)

i went to etirelyreal's party last night...my first experience in swinging! i was really impressed by the seeming true affection everyone in the house seemed to have for each other. i think i was expecting to see a porno scene happening everywhere. and while there WAS sex happening all around me, it wasn't dirty or lewd, or raunchy (i'm sure it can get there sometimes). what i saw was very loving and it was beautiful.

never in my wildest DREAMS would i have ever thought of going to this...especially alone! but entirelyreal was so open to me and her profile and the standards for conduct she laid out really made me feel it was a place i could go and feel truly safe. i SO appreciate her generosity of spirit in reaching out to me. thank you again, missus.

and another *special* thank you to all of the attendees. i feel honored for you to have let me participate in your fun and look forward to seeing you all again. and sorry to those gentlemen/lady i wasn't yet ready to play with. i hope you won't hold it against me if we happen to meet again.

SO, i got in a LOT of watching! and if i am lucky enough to be invited back to silk and skin or to other smaller 'parties,' maybe i will take time out from interviewing everyone to have a little bit (read: have SOME physical contact) of fun myself. i am actually looking forward to attending a more standard event at skin and silk....i just bought some beautiful lingerie. :)

i am a sincerely happy gal today. t/c

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"i didn't think about contacting a couple FIRST...i had so many responses that i was going with what came in first."

Quality couples and singles don't send messages; we prefer to let people contact us. If you are "going with what came in first", you are talking to the desperate, the inexperienced, the dysfunctional, and the potential problems.

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Come to my parties. I will introduce you to lots of great couples and handpicked, cream of the crop single males who are truly single.

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Come to my parties. I will introduce you to lots of great couples and handpicked, cream of the crop single males who are truly single.

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so meet and greets are just that? no sex?

i didn't think about contacting a couple FIRST...i had so many responses that i was going with what came in first.

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tallandcurvy, call me. I don't beat around the bush either.

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Welcome to the forums, tallandcurvy!

I agree with everything that Uriah recommended. I read your profile and I think it's terrific! You will get a lot of people contacting you. In over two years on SLS, we get at least one single guy contacting us per day... most have not read our profile and are not compatible. Interestingly, we have only played with guys that we have contacted first.

Many people like clubs. We have gone twice and had a good time, but my wife was grabbed a few times without her permission and we found it difficult to get away from people that did not interest us. We have had great times at house parties. We are most comfortable with one on one evenings with singles and couples.

You may also want to attend a few meet and greets, just to get to know a few people. We have a rule to not play on the first meeting, but there was one couple where there was so much chemistry that we went right back to our room and had a great time!

Good luck to you, tallandcurvy!

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1. Look for profiles in your area of a couple or single that have been on the site for at least 5 years, have many pics, have many real certs, and to whom you are attracted.

2. Send them a message explaining the same interest that you express in your post.

3. Meet them in public, fully clothed, with no sex involved to talk.

4. If everyone is comfortable, watch them have sex.

It's just that simple.

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i have been reading these forums for a few hours now, and i'm not finding the topic i need, so sorry if this redundant. if that's the case, kindly point me in the right direction?

i have to say, it's nice to read there are so many in the same boat as me, though...having trouble finding someone to help take my swinging virginity. how am i supposed to know if i am a 'unicorn' if i never get the chance to take the first step?

i know taking on a newbie is hard for some. but i am no game-player, tease, or drama queen. i am emotionally available to people (almost) immediately...yes that get's me in trouble sometimes, but i'm used to it...and have a very keen self-awareness. have i say EXACTLY what's on my mind. i ask very direct questions and tell the absolute truth without use of euphemisms or concern about what someone's *gentile nature* might find too raunchy for having just met. i don't see the point of lots of small talk. SO, i think i am perfect to bring into your bedroom to watch how this all goes down before i decide if i want to dive in.

i have been told i should tone these qualities down and 'play the game,' but i resist, because where would that leave me? i am who i am. and my friends and family love me for it. but, to be clear, it's not like i have zero charm or charisma (as it may come across in writing)...people LOVE me way more often than they are turned off by me. :)

is the answer going to a club and getting mobbed? that's what i hear happens to single women there, and i tend to be very claustrophobic in crowds.

help? know anyone near me who can accommodate? i only have private pics, but can assure i am a very pretty woman...have been described as 'striking' and told i have a 'penetrating presence.' thanks, t/c

Arlington VA
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