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I mean, what woman wouldn't want to be the center of attention of two men that she is attracted to and that have the true desire of satisfying her fantasies and sexual fulfillment???"

Not all women like this, myself included. That is the same as thinking that all women like gang bangs. Some do, some don't :0). Myself, I prefer one on one. I can't stand MFMs.

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"Actually, the internet itself made it harder for single men when it comes to swinging. From the beginning, the internet has flooded clueless single men with stories, movies, and fake adult ad sites telling them about all the "easy" sex they can be having with 18 year old supermodels and lonely housewives, then swinger sites came along. Those same clueless men joined the sites in droves thinking all they had to do is show up and they would start having free sex too.

Unfortunately, the clueless single men don't realize that sex ALWAYS costs something, even though 99% of the time its usually just the time to talk to and form some kind of rapport with the other person (usually other people when it comes to swinging). They think they can use the same lines they read on the internet or saw in a porno and they are in.

Thats what real single male swingers are up against. If you don't have exactly what someone says and can prove it, you have to wait for someone to get brave enough to contact you and maybe be disappointed. If you have great writing skills and mean what you write, you can take the chance that someone THAT SAYS they are looking for single men won't delete your message before reading the first line. Or you could be lucky and live in an area that has clubs that allow unescorted single men or be willing to drive three or four hours one way to a club that does.

Swinging is much MUCH harder than dating for single men. Its great fun when you meet the right people, but outside of fulfilling a fantasy or two, I concentrate on dating women I meet on the street and dropping hints about swinging during small talk time. Usually they take my stories for "Guy Lies" and laugh them off. A few actually tried to shock me by telling me stories of their own. After going back and forth like this I bring up going to a swing club by mentioning the name, not what kind of club it is. If she swings, she usually lights up and asks why she has never seen me there. If she doesn't, she usually asks what kind of crowd goes there and what kind of music they play there and I change the subject.

Keep your eyes and ears open, read everything about single men (good and bad) so you can learn what to expect from single women and couples in the lifestyle, and figure out what you want out of swinging AND out of dating single women. Then, if its worth it to try and swing, put ten times the effort into dating single women outside the lifestyle as you do to trying to swing. Trust me, for every person you try to meet through swinging, there are probably ten or twelve single women in your immediate area you would like to meet that are wondering where they can meet a guy like you.

Of course, I haven't met one of those women yet (several have come on to me, but pleeeeaaassseee LOL) but I do keep my eyes open. Barnes and Noble day tomorrow LOL.

Lansing MI
 
 
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