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Hi K

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Hi Jen :)

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We are moderators of an SLS Group called Single Men Welcome Here. It is open to single males as well as couples and ladies that are single male friendly.

We now have over 10,000 members and it is growing rapidly. It's a great way to sort the wheat from the chaff.

Click on the Groups link on the left tool bar and you'll find us at the top of the most popular list.

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Really in a lot of ways, single men make it more difficult than is necessary. Do not make the formula harder than you have to. Simply be yourself. You do not have to jump through hoops or do tricks in order to have attention paid to you. Simply be a friendly, open, interesting guy. Its really not that hard. Be clean, friendly and open to both the wife and the husband. And there you go.


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when I see a couple, I think of them as a team, even though I am not bi, I still know that if I am to partake of their world and experince any form of sexual conduct they BOTH have to be willing to agree. so if I approach a couple, I simply say something along the lines of " I am interested in getting to know you both and becoming friends", regardless if they are interested or not, I have been polite and respectful. that is the thing, everyone deserves respect, especially if they are into the swinger life style. it takes a lot of trust between couples to do whatever it is they do and they deserve the respect, atleast in my opinion... all I do is treat people how I want to be treated and it pays off. I am given respect back, not always ending up in the bedroom, but that isn't really all that important, just hella fun ya know :)

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Agree...who going to argue with a hard cock...unless an attitude is attached to it?

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Agreed, we have single men blocked from our profile as well pretty much for the same reasons you stated sac.


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We have a laundry list of first emails from single guys that ask if...

Does she swings alone. Can we hook up tonight. Emails with no words, just a cock pic. How he could give her what I can't.

Those are the top four that peat and repeat until we blocked all single males from our profile. Some single males are most other single males own worst ememy...not most couples on here. Good, solid single males have a rough road to travel, those that are cut out for it see past all the bullshit and reap the rewards, which there are a plenty of here in SLS land. Rotten apples do spoil the barrel in real life and here on the web...point of fact.

The wife now finds a single male at a SLS event/house party to suit her needs if she is so inclined.

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I mean, what woman wouldn't want to be the center of attention of two men that she is attracted to and that have the true desire of satisfying her fantasies and sexual fulfillment???"

Not all women like this, myself included. That is the same as thinking that all women like gang bangs. Some do, some don't :0). Myself, I prefer one on one. I can't stand MFMs.


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"Actually, the internet itself made it harder for single men when it comes to swinging. From the beginning, the internet has flooded clueless single men with stories, movies, and fake adult ad sites telling them about all the "easy" sex they can be having with 18 year old supermodels and lonely housewives, then swinger sites came along. Those same clueless men joined the sites in droves thinking all they had to do is show up and they would start having free sex too.

Unfortunately, the clueless single men don't realize that sex ALWAYS costs something, even though 99% of the time its usually just the time to talk to and form some kind of rapport with the other person (usually other people when it comes to swinging). They think they can use the same lines they read on the internet or saw in a porno and they are in.

Thats what real single male swingers are up against. If you don't have exactly what someone says and can prove it, you have to wait for someone to get brave enough to contact you and maybe be disappointed. If you have great writing skills and mean what you write, you can take the chance that someone THAT SAYS they are looking for single men won't delete your message before reading the first line. Or you could be lucky and live in an area that has clubs that allow unescorted single men or be willing to drive three or four hours one way to a club that does.

Swinging is much MUCH harder than dating for single men. Its great fun when you meet the right people, but outside of fulfilling a fantasy or two, I concentrate on dating women I meet on the street and dropping hints about swinging during small talk time. Usually they take my stories for "Guy Lies" and laugh them off. A few actually tried to shock me by telling me stories of their own. After going back and forth like this I bring up going to a swing club by mentioning the name, not what kind of club it is. If she swings, she usually lights up and asks why she has never seen me there. If she doesn't, she usually asks what kind of crowd goes there and what kind of music they play there and I change the subject.

Keep your eyes and ears open, read everything about single men (good and bad) so you can learn what to expect from single women and couples in the lifestyle, and figure out what you want out of swinging AND out of dating single women. Then, if its worth it to try and swing, put ten times the effort into dating single women outside the lifestyle as you do to trying to swing. Trust me, for every person you try to meet through swinging, there are probably ten or twelve single women in your immediate area you would like to meet that are wondering where they can meet a guy like you.

Of course, I haven't met one of those women yet (several have come on to me, but pleeeeaaassseee LOL) but I do keep my eyes open. Barnes and Noble day tomorrow LOL.


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