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I date single women. I have the unique perspective of being on both sides of this fence.

Do: -Treat a lady like a person. Players are no different. Respect for personhood is key. -Do not spam profiles. Sending the same letter isn't going to work. -Give appropriate, TRUE compliments. She’s taken effort to look nice. Acknowledge it. -Pay attention to body language. Women send very clear body language. -Have a nice discussion about anything but sex. Men who focus on the obvious, lose. -Ask open ended questions. (Not yes/no questions) -Relaxed confidence and attention is key. -Give the lady an honest flavor of your personality. Forums work well. -Speak in a way that is easily understood. Talking up or down is a killer. -Develop a non-grasping behavior. don't ask for a meeting immediately. Be in No hurry. -Comment on her forum posts/profile notes if she has them. -Rejection is success. I tried. The more rejections, the closer to success. -Be realistic, confident, comfortable regarding your attractiveness.

Errors are easy to spot: -Boasting about sexual abilities. Women know it’s the quiet ones to “worry” about. -Offering measurements, wanting hers indicates you have no real clue. -Describing your love of “oral” and other BS. -Not having gentlemanly pics. Try to show the “real” you. don't cut out your former. -Bitching about jumping through hoops. You are responsible for who you pick. Complaining about your picks, shows inability to choose well, inability to accept responsibility, and a generally poor attitude in accepting women’s wants/needs.

We know why we are meeting. We understand it’s about sex. Vanilla or not. But it’s more than that. If I escort you to a party/club, I'm responsible for you. No other venue is like that. I have to make sure you don't lose higher mental functions when exposed to naked women. Therefore I only escort the safest men to parties.

YMMV,

Mischief<—who is looking for regional(NoVa, MD, DC, PA) gals to hang with.

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OK, I'm going to ask the question that nobody has asked or wanted to ask. What does a single man do differently when he wants to meet a single woman involved in the swinging lifestyle as opposed to meeting single women strictly for dating?

I have actually met women in real life who are on this site and had some fun times with them, but as soon as they come across my ad, I can't get two words out of them the next time I see them. Happened once around this time last year and it really pissed me off because I had just posted a picture on my profile a couple of hours after she called me and said to bring an overnight bag. When I arrived she kicked me out and accused me of stalking her online. Oh, she didn't have pictures on her profile and never sent me one. Her ad said she lived in Chicago, but then she changed it a few days later. I wasn't able to even view it a few days after that.

Maybe thats an extreme case. But really, what do you say differently to a sing woman on a swing site you are interested in and believe would be interested in you than you would to a woman you would meet in real life or on a dating site? Many men want to know, and maybe you single women and couples who were once single swingers can tell us guys why we are treated differently by the same women when it comes to swinging versus regular boy-girl dating.

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