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Hi Mischeifinyou I agree with you on almost everything you are saying. But one thing I disagree. Not all the Quiet ones are risks. I am a Quiet one. And I treat People the way I like to be Treated. My only problem is Im just a little shy. Just thought I would put in my 2 cents. :) Thanks

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Thank you gentlemen. (Waves) I believe the same goes for females looking for single men. It's important that we mesh on some level. I like to think of it as partners in crime. It's actually harder than vanilla dating because I'm looking for men who are comfortable in "alternate" situations.

I'm not about to tell them or put in my profile that I give fairly good head for a "lesbian." Big smile. But I might not wear any underwear on the date either. Why? It's about fun.

From the various posts I've seen quality, single, Gentlemen are in huge demand by couples and single women. It's clearly a major lapse in ability to communicate.

If I was a single guy, I would be popular once I was known. Too many folks wanting, for there not to be a niche for me.

Mischief<--still licking my wounds from the break up with my gf.

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Mischief, those are all very good points. I have a few single ladies with whom I play, and our relationship is characterized by the following: (1) we are both mature adults who enjoy sex; (2) we maintain a friendship that involves interests, conversation, and activities other than sex; (3) we are aware of each other's sexual likes and dislikes, and like to introduce each other to other swingers with whom they might click; and (4) we are not looking for emotional commitments that could change the nature of our sexual friendship.

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I date single women. I have the unique perspective of being on both sides of this fence.

Do: -Treat a lady like a person. Players are no different. Respect for personhood is key. -Do not spam profiles. Sending the same letter isn't going to work. -Give appropriate, TRUE compliments. She’s taken effort to look nice. Acknowledge it. -Pay attention to body language. Women send very clear body language. -Have a nice discussion about anything but sex. Men who focus on the obvious, lose. -Ask open ended questions. (Not yes/no questions) -Relaxed confidence and attention is key. -Give the lady an honest flavor of your personality. Forums work well. -Speak in a way that is easily understood. Talking up or down is a killer. -Develop a non-grasping behavior. don't ask for a meeting immediately. Be in No hurry. -Comment on her forum posts/profile notes if she has them. -Rejection is success. I tried. The more rejections, the closer to success. -Be realistic, confident, comfortable regarding your attractiveness.

Errors are easy to spot: -Boasting about sexual abilities. Women know it’s the quiet ones to “worry” about. -Offering measurements, wanting hers indicates you have no real clue. -Describing your love of “oral” and other BS. -Not having gentlemanly pics. Try to show the “real” you. don't cut out your former. -Bitching about jumping through hoops. You are responsible for who you pick. Complaining about your picks, shows inability to choose well, inability to accept responsibility, and a generally poor attitude in accepting women’s wants/needs.

We know why we are meeting. We understand it’s about sex. Vanilla or not. But it’s more than that. If I escort you to a party/club, I'm responsible for you. No other venue is like that. I have to make sure you don't lose higher mental functions when exposed to naked women. Therefore I only escort the safest men to parties.

YMMV,

Mischief<—who is looking for regional(NoVa, MD, DC, PA) gals to hang with.

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