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I guess it all comes down to a few important things. Things we all learn as Children. And carry through all our lives. Respect people the way you want them to respect you. Do not Assume It only makes an ass of you. :) Be nice and others will in turn be nice to you. And you get what you give. Meaning if you are friendly and respectable to others you get the same right back. This works in the Lifestyle also. Maybe even more so. Following these simple things in this Lifestyle you can make alot of new Friends, and have fun, Plus meet alot of fun future people to play with. Well thats my two cents again. :) Thanks

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Hello Mischeifinyou. OK I agree 100% with you then. :) :) :)

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"Easier for her not to get involved with unproven men from the beginning."

Correct. The man I bring with me has been swinging forever. I KNOW he's safe, respectful, polite and skilled. One of the worst things that happens in clubs are men who don't "get it."

It's not always new men. Some people ignore very clear signals. I'm not worried about my "status.” Some love me. Some hate me. But, the last thing I want to do is subject the ladies to an asshole.

During a mixed gender party, I let in a guy a friend brought. Within 2 hours, 3 women came to me with complaints. I told him to leave. There was an attempt to deny the issue. I said no negotiation. You are out in 5 minutes, dressed or not.

More recently, I had to throw a lesbian out of a bichick party. She couldn't handle the FF action in the tub. ???? She didn't have the experience and became combative. The woman that brought her regretted it BIG TIME.

Here's the take home. It's generally too many issues bringing a guy. I found one gentleman in a swing club another in a public dungeon. On-line?? Probably not.

Finding a single/available lady, who likes to swing. I'm looking for one also. Meeting in clubs or private parties is the best. On-line really doesn't work. I have tried for years. It just doesn't work. The only lady I met (most recent gf) was in a swing club.

Forums seem to be the only on-line option. If you post regularly and folks get a sense of who you are. They will be more likely to contact you. You can also comment on something they wrote via mail. That may start a dialog that leads to success.

Remember this isn’t easy. We want women who have certain vanilla qualities and are comfortable with group sexuality. Sigh.. They are rare..But you are talking to one.. Wink.

Mischief..hope this helps gentlemen

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The Quiet ones are the ones to watch out for. Means They are the one's who are good in the rack. They don't boast, brag, or otherwise call attention to themselves.

They just are. They are the one's to watch out for. Meaning. I married one. Another is my lover. A 3rd is damn close and I have a date Wednesday. ;)

Quiet is a good thing.

Mischief

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Hi Mischeifinyou I agree with you on almost everything you are saying. But one thing I disagree. Not all the Quiet ones are risks. I am a Quiet one. And I treat People the way I like to be Treated. My only problem is Im just a little shy. Just thought I would put in my 2 cents. :) Thanks

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Thank you gentlemen. (Waves) I believe the same goes for females looking for single men. It's important that we mesh on some level. I like to think of it as partners in crime. It's actually harder than vanilla dating because I'm looking for men who are comfortable in "alternate" situations.

I'm not about to tell them or put in my profile that I give fairly good head for a "lesbian." Big smile. But I might not wear any underwear on the date either. Why? It's about fun.

From the various posts I've seen quality, single, Gentlemen are in huge demand by couples and single women. It's clearly a major lapse in ability to communicate.

If I was a single guy, I would be popular once I was known. Too many folks wanting, for there not to be a niche for me.

Mischief<--still licking my wounds from the break up with my gf.

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Mischief, those are all very good points. I have a few single ladies with whom I play, and our relationship is characterized by the following: (1) we are both mature adults who enjoy sex; (2) we maintain a friendship that involves interests, conversation, and activities other than sex; (3) we are aware of each other's sexual likes and dislikes, and like to introduce each other to other swingers with whom they might click; and (4) we are not looking for emotional commitments that could change the nature of our sexual friendship.

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I date single women. I have the unique perspective of being on both sides of this fence.

Do: -Treat a lady like a person. Players are no different. Respect for personhood is key. -Do not spam profiles. Sending the same letter isn't going to work. -Give appropriate, TRUE compliments. She’s taken effort to look nice. Acknowledge it. -Pay attention to body language. Women send very clear body language. -Have a nice discussion about anything but sex. Men who focus on the obvious, lose. -Ask open ended questions. (Not yes/no questions) -Relaxed confidence and attention is key. -Give the lady an honest flavor of your personality. Forums work well. -Speak in a way that is easily understood. Talking up or down is a killer. -Develop a non-grasping behavior. don't ask for a meeting immediately. Be in No hurry. -Comment on her forum posts/profile notes if she has them. -Rejection is success. I tried. The more rejections, the closer to success. -Be realistic, confident, comfortable regarding your attractiveness.

Errors are easy to spot: -Boasting about sexual abilities. Women know it’s the quiet ones to “worry” about. -Offering measurements, wanting hers indicates you have no real clue. -Describing your love of “oral” and other BS. -Not having gentlemanly pics. Try to show the “real” you. don't cut out your former. -Bitching about jumping through hoops. You are responsible for who you pick. Complaining about your picks, shows inability to choose well, inability to accept responsibility, and a generally poor attitude in accepting women’s wants/needs.

We know why we are meeting. We understand it’s about sex. Vanilla or not. But it’s more than that. If I escort you to a party/club, I'm responsible for you. No other venue is like that. I have to make sure you don't lose higher mental functions when exposed to naked women. Therefore I only escort the safest men to parties.

YMMV,

Mischief<—who is looking for regional(NoVa, MD, DC, PA) gals to hang with.

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