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There are two distinct categories of single women who patronize sites like these.

Some are looking strictly for sex. They are married/attached, they are at a point in life where they just don't want any entanglements, or they are looking for something specific and unusual, like encounters with couples or a gangbang.

The rest of us are looking for real friendships, and possibly for an LTR if the right guy shows up. We're on sites like this because we're into the Lifestyle and don't want to waste our time with vanilla guys who Don't Get It. And because many of us are not at all averse to meeting someone purely for sex from time to time if the urge strikes.

Dating a woman from category B is in most ways no different from dating a vanilla woman; in fact, we're insulted by men who categorize women as "dating material" or "sluts who like to fuck" as if the two things were mutually exclusive. The big difference is that you can arrive at your first date knowing that you share an interest in sex and the Lifestyle. This means it's not only safe to talk about it, but expected. You can reasonably assume that the woman is interested in playing with you if she likes you, if not on the first date, then fairly soon afterwards; none of this "make him go out with me five times first" crap. And if she likes you, there is a very strong probability that your second, third or fourth date could be a swingers' event.

But it is otherwise just like any other date. The woman still wants to be treated with respect, and wants to know all about you, not just about your sexual turn-ons and your cock size. If you act like you expect to be fucking an hour after meeting, you will piss her off.

A Category A woman also wants to be treated with respect, and is also going to want to know about who you are rather than just how you like to fuck. The difference is that she doesn't want quite as much information and is probably not going to want to go out on a full-scale date. More likely, she just wants to have a drink with you to establish rapport before playing.

Neither category of woman wants to be insulted with an "I wanna eat your pussy" email from a total stranger. Contact women whose profiles seem to indicate they are looking for the same thing you are and tell them a little about yourself. Make reference to what they said in their profiles. And then let them take the lead.

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TPA...in the armpit of Maryland. Port Deposit..

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Hmmmm My take on this subject is this..... I would think Meeting single women in the lifestyle would be the same as on the Outside. But its more of a Relaxed atmosphere. Common Courtesy and respect never go out of style. Dont act like something your not. Be yourself. I have learned that if I follow these guidelines its all good. And relax and have fun. :) Gettin off my Soap Box again. :)

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of course you may watch. ;) I'll need to blindfold the lady. She only needs to "think" she's alone..

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For ABS. There are ways to meet women. It's not only dumb luck although I've found that works best for me as well.

Bilal19..You like sex? Shock. Most folks do. That's why it doesn't need to be discussed. If you want to have a chance, don't bring up your cock size (most are adequate), your oral skills, or how many MFMs you have done.

Focus on vanilla party skills, smile, make folks laugh, relax, ask women to dance and don't look desperate. Don't ignore her husband, Don't focus on one woman, be flexible in what you are up for, make "party info cards*", don't ask which team she's batting for that evening.

Saturday, one guy blew it by insisting on knowing (right after we walked in the door) if we were up for het sex. He should have been able to tell by our body language.

Gentlemen, Don't assume women are stopping in their tracks to hit on me. They are not. Don't assume I have it "easy". If I was into anonymous, het, sex or was a performing seal (whose life goal was to join couples so they could get their collective rocks off), the line would form at the right.

Because I have exacting standards, prefer gentlemen over the married man (Saturday)whose opening line... "Can I kiss (points below belt) "that" failed to work 2x. I rarely have het sex in clubs.

Gentlemen, honest mistakes are ok. Clueless jerk come ons will poison the well forever.

I have found over time, the gems find me. It's well worth the wait. We are no different than couples looking for partners. This is NOT easy.

I have waited for every partner I've gotten. They have been worth the wait. I have dates with 2 gentlemen on Wednesday. One at noon, and one for dinner. I will cuddle up to my lover's fuzzy chest that night. I waited 2 years for him.

Enough said.

Mischief. *party cards=inkjet cards with a yahoo account and my name on them.

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I guess what has been said is, as a single man your chances are slim. The only thing you can do is be intelligent, polite, and assertive without being aggressive or crude. Then wait. Only a few couples and single women actually look for us. The rest either have guys on standby already or don't want anything to do with single men for one reason or another.

I started this topic to get women to give constructive advice to the single men that might give us an edge, but it seems to boil down to only two things: Common decency and dumb luck, and you have to have both at the right time and in the right place. Funny thing is, dumb luck seems to be more important than common decency.

I met my last girl friend/swing partner when my Army buddy's flight was cancelled due to a snow storm. I was talking to her, the flight cancellation was announced, and I half jokingly invited her to see the wrestling match I had bought tickets to see that night. It was too cold to try and scalp one of them. She accepted, and we went out for three weeks before getting busy. Then we told each other we were still seeing others (well, she was, I was still just going out on many first dates) but she always called when in town. I met a man while fixing phone lines in Canada and found out he lived only five miles from me. He invited me to dinner with him and his wife a few times, then after a few months, dinner became dinner and sex. They moved to Ohio six months after I met them (nine months after I met my future ex girlfriend) and invited me to a swing party. The woman I met at the airport was there as well, and we had a laugh, then started dating almost exclusively. Almost, because she had a nationwide circle of swing friends.

In short, I got lucky. Nothing I said or did helped me meet either my ex or the couple. I did, however, get them to trust me enough to let me into their swinging circle for a period of time, but all I did was be myself.

I guess that is where the paradox lay. You can't meet swingers the way you meet vanilla friends, but sometimes the vanilla friends you meet are swingers and invite you to join them. So, any thoughts on why its ok to bring a guy who knows nothing about swinging into the lifestyle but its better to avoid guys who want to get in (or back in, in cases like mine?)

drat...I went away from the original topic.

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Mischief... you make me so proud :)

~~ spoken very meekly: May I sit quietly in a very dark corner and watch next time...from the beginning?

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Most recent (last night) tales from the club. I celebrated my former gf's Birthday with her. We went to a club. I dressed for a scene. I was wound up and enjoyed putting on a show. Some standards, remove thong with teeth.

We went to cuddle in a group room. This attracted some attention. We didn't engage anything other than some hot tribadism*, and spanking. BD spanking, remember.

Afterwards, young man approached us. He made a huge number of errors (probably a record) in a very short amount of time.

He invaded our space, standing within a foot of us. The short version. He said our interaction "was tame. There were 8 guys watching us. We must be new (at FFsex) and afraid."

I clarified his statements. I asked, "By tame do you mean we should have gone down on each other? We should have entertained the men?"

Yes that's what he meant. The kicker. He described wanting to come in and "Show us how IT is done." It=oral sex on a woman.

The youngster thought we should behave like women in a porn movie??!!??

This kid was less than 25 and way out of his element. His confidence came off as arrogance. I have many flaws. A big one, I tend to react.

Astounded by his statements, I replied. "Open trap door! Eject! You are out of here." "I have been eating pussy for 25 years..That's longer than you have been alive!"

On the bright side we met some nice folks, had fun in the shower, and got down in a private room with several single guys lurking at the door??!!! They stayed there for more than an hour??!!??

This was one of the strangest things anyone has ever said to me.

Mischief *Tribadism: lesbianism; sex by rubbing. [From: The Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices]

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I guess it all comes down to a few important things. Things we all learn as Children. And carry through all our lives. Respect people the way you want them to respect you. Do not Assume It only makes an ass of you. :) Be nice and others will in turn be nice to you. And you get what you give. Meaning if you are friendly and respectable to others you get the same right back. This works in the Lifestyle also. Maybe even more so. Following these simple things in this Lifestyle you can make alot of new Friends, and have fun, Plus meet alot of fun future people to play with. Well thats my two cents again. :) Thanks

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Hello Mischeifinyou. OK I agree 100% with you then. :) :) :)

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