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TOPIC: Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)

Created by: double_entendre Original Starting post for this thread:
I get that much of this lifestyle revolves around SEX. . . I mean, without the sexual aspect, it's just going out with friends. While I love sex as much as the next guy (or gal), I would REALLY Love to find a partner-- something permanent... not someone just so I can get in the door at the local sex club or go to parties with. I'm on 'normal' dating sites, and I'm up front an honest about non-monogamy, but I swear, 95% of the email I get from women is just to tell me how great I am... except for that swinging thing... Is there a good place to meet SINGLE SWINGERS who are looking for a relationship and not just a great roll in the hay?

Created by: double_entendre
Original Starting post for this thread:

I get that much of this lifestyle revolves around SEX. . . I mean, without the sexual aspect, it's just going out with friends.

While I love sex as much as the next guy (or gal), I would REALLY Love to find a partner-- something permanent... not someone just so I can get in the door at the local sex club or go to parties with.

I'm on 'normal' dating sites, and I'm up front an honest about non-monogamy, but I swear, 95% of the email I get from women is just to tell me how great I am... except for that swinging thing...  

Is there a good place to meet SINGLE SWINGERS who are looking for a relationship and not just a great roll in the hay?

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User Details are only visible to members.	As a man I can say that it seems to be easier to find the partner first then the lifesyle seems to find you. The lifestyle should not come first when it comes to finding someone to be a partner because this is only a small part of your relationship, how you deal with each other on a daily basis is so much bigger than this. My wife and I had dinner with relatives and we were shocked when they hinted at their willingness to give swinging a shot after 20 years of marriage. They did not know we were in the lifestyle at he time but we both agreed that the lifestyle usually comes up at some point to most couples at one time or another, good luck
Fairburn GA			Username hidden (54 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Here is a good place to start (although you might want to update your photos - you're smiling in only a couple of them, you don't look happy which might make other people not want to be unhappy with you). Remember, even if you're playing with a couple, that friendship might lead to others - they'll have friends including possibly single female swingers that they might introduce you to if they like you and think you'll be good for their friend. We know a couple of single swinger girls and am introducing a single swinger male we like to one because we think they'd be perfect together. :-D
Westerly RI			Username hidden (83 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Welcome to the forum Camindelaware!! See below post too: whether in Swing or Vanilla relationships, I think the most solid partnerships (of couples that I know of anyway) began with an "attraction" or a friendship and develop from there. If you already know for sure that you want to have a relationship that includes swinging, you are wasting your time over at e-harmony looking for a swinger and you really should not sign up here expecting a "love" connection either. Concentrate on looking for friends/benefits first and if something more develops, consider yourself fortunate. Shelly
Memphis TN			Username hidden (2762 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	while I am mainly here interested in older women at the moment I am not delusional to the point that I would ever rule out finding my female counterpart in age and ideas about what a love life should be. I expect that if I am ever to find a swinger partner, this would be the most likely place to do it. My main worry though and what I want a few opinions on is can you really trust someone you met here to be a truly permanent fixture in your life. While I eventually see my self swapping and future mrs. me I want to know that im not just a stop on her way to the next mr. her.
Newark DE			Username hidden (1 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well said, sb! Good advice.
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (2721 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You should keep your options open, network and concentrate on meeting people and developing friendships first. The most successful and lasting partnerships IMO, lifestyle or not, are those that initially began within the bonds of a friendship that allows those feelings and trust to develop slowly over time. Good luck. sb311
Memphis TN			Username hidden (2762 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I had a fun partner for ten years, met him at a meet and greet. We enjoyed vanilla as well as the lifestyle fun together.
Spring TX			Username hidden (1853 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I take a huge exception to statements like ALL of us are in the LS for a quick roll in the hay. I don't have to be in the LS for that. I can have that vanilla or otherwise. The sexual aspect of the LS is cool but I have numerous acquaintances, LS, that I don't have those encounters with. Either I've had it with them and choose not to have them anymore or vice versa. I am huge on socialization. If the sex happens it's cool; if not that's cool too. There are those on this site who take shit too personally....like they dangle themselves in front of you like carrots and if after a time you just tell em straight up...listen, I really don't have time for the back and forth, they block you as if you're life depended on them....please...grow the fuck up! My time is valuable and I am not here to fulfill some sick fantasy via countless e-mails going nowhere. Now to find the partner for an sls relationship. Don't be so overly anxious. If the LS is presented in a decent and not sleazy way, it may work. If not, move on.
Vero Beach FL			Username hidden (783 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	lol....I think you are on to something there.
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11414 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"Why is this so difficult?" Perhaps your couples profile is sending the wrong message?
Cincinnati OH			Username hidden (3306 post)

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