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TOPIC: Finding_a_new_partner_in_life_(who_also_wants_to_swing)
Created by: double_entendre
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I get that much of this lifestyle revolves around SEX. . . I mean, without the sexual aspect, it's just going out with friends.

While I love sex as much as the next guy (or gal), I would REALLY Love to find a partner-- something permanent... not someone just so I can get in the door at the local sex club or go to parties with.

I'm on 'normal' dating sites, and I'm up front an honest about non-monogamy, but I swear, 95% of the email I get from women is just to tell me how great I am... except for that swinging thing...

Is there a good place to meet SINGLE SWINGERS who are looking for a relationship and not just a great roll in the hay?

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Got to say, my experience reflects exactly what @njnybiwfemme said. Still, It doesn't hurt to be in touch with websites and venues where people are known to be into the same sorts of things as one's self.

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Jslillian, 'hedo' hedonism II, an All inclusive resort that is clothing optional and swinger friendly. I'm there to party naked with my friends. if swinging doesn't happen, I'm not going to cry, I'm there for the fun with wonderful friends. If I find *that* guy here, great. If not, great. However, going to hedonism when it's in the budget is a make or break for me. I love the relaxing vibe and the fun I have.

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imo, and in my experience, joining any website with hopes or expectations (however one wants to express those thoughts) of any specific experience or type of person...is a recipe for disappointment.

in life, and what is this little habit/penchant but a slice of life overall?--again imo and in my experience---it's only when i haven't been "looking" (or even been sorta convinced i didn't want or need something) that those experiences or people came in to my life.

this is not to discourage anyone from looking (or even having hopes or expectations). more to say, hang in there, have fun when and as you are able, and approach the people met here with skeptical optimism.

life hands is gifts when we are least expecting and usually always in oddly mysterious (and wonderful!) ways.

good luck, ladies.

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magjoy what is HEDO?

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I would definitely love to find someone, but I think it's a needle in a haystack. I'd settle for someone of the vanilla persuasion who would go to hedo with me. Hedo is definitely a deal breaker for me.

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Lady_Tramp you got it right. I feel more secure in a LTR. I love having someone there for the little things, just love having adventure in my sex life.

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Oh, ok...well I certainly wish you well with that for sure.

And thanks for that clarification. I was just a little unsure at first reading if I understood what you were looking for in the end, though again, I don't really have particularly strong opinions either way.

I do believe that many singles (in or out of this LS) are at least open to a relationship (given the right set of circumstances), and that has never surprised me.

If I'm hearing you right, what you're saying is that you like the LS, but would rather be in it as a couple in an LTR as opposed to a single.

There's certainly nothing difficult to understand about that for ole Tramp! Lol

Again, best of luck your way.

Tramp

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Lady_Tramp I def want to have a partner that is agreeable to this lifestyle. I am actually talking to someone from a regular dating site that is open to this life. Fingers crossed we click.

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I understand what you're saying biodoc, and I think that I know the forum posters whom you are referring to (at least I believe that I do) , but....

Remember, while this couple met as singles in the LS, neither were wanting (or trying) to avoid the proverbial *role in the hay* or *one night stand*. To the contrary, these were committed swingers who met and developed into something more.

My question to the OP is really targeted towards my genuine curiousity as to whether or not the OP has an interest in the casual, NSA sex that traditional swingers engage in.

No strong opinions on it either way, just curious.

Tramp

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We were actually just having a conversation about this with a SM friend that we met in the lifestyle. He is looking for a partner to share day to day life with, but doesn't want to give up swinging. He said it is hard work trying to establish a strong one on one relationship while maintaining an open relationship or incorporating swinging while still getting to know a new (long term potential) partner. But, as OP experienced, if he goes into a vanilla partnership, it is hard to introduce her to his desire for an open/swing relationship later, without getting dropped like a hot potato. I know at least one pair of frequent forum posters met and stayed in the lifestyle. Are there others? Does anyone have experience of stepping out of the lifestyle but only dating people with lifestyle experience, then stepping back in as a pair when the one on one bond is stable? Any resources or dating sites I can point our friend to?

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