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TOPIC: Being a single male in the lifestyle
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Welcome Latinoheat6969401.

You have been on the site as a single for what, 5 days?

You asked for advice, start with this. Add some pics, correct the spelling at the end of your profile and most importantly, remember how it was as a couple. What type of SMs did you and your SO seek out? Be THAT guy.

Oh and your profile is so focused on finding a SF to be a couple with, most couples will view you as someone biding his time until he finds her and will dismiss you as not a good prospect for anything long term.

Good luck and have fun!

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Why is it so hard to meet couples or single women as a single male? I've been in this lifstyle for around 8 years and when I was with my ex wife it was easy to met people but know that I'm single couples and single women treat me like I'm just some weirdo. I am very respectful and I try to be a gentlemen but nothing seems to get anyone's attention. Any suggestions...

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This is a response to the OP: Try a bit of patience man...Rome wasn't built in a day. As far as going to clubs....as a single male I see no need to do that. The only time I've gone to clubs, I've either been with a single lady or went with a couple. I don't find the need to drop $50-$100 jut to walk in the door. I do just fine without it.

Just remember: You gotta crawl before you walk.

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I'm older thus slightly heavier, I was born 6,935 days earlier!

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You two have matching heights and weights Poly! Is he your twin? ;-)

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great post i feel the same way

Jacksonville FL
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I'm glad that Mers decided to upload great photos of himself. You're a great looking guy! don't be frustrated, be patient, I promise it will happen :).

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"I have always been more active as a single male then when I was playing as part of a couple."

Same here.

Don't try to force anything. In your travels you will cross paths with many single women who want to partner up with you.

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Welcome Meremser,

I have no pearls of wisdom for you. But wanted to address this sentence:

*There are easy ways to discern who is there for a quick lay, and who is truly involved in the lifestyle.*

Swinging is about getting laid, no ifs, no buts about it. I don't understand anyone that claims that it's a lifestyle. It's not.

You are articulate, you write clearly, you express yourself well. Upload flattering pictures. You seem to be very clear about what you want, though it isn't a relationship/love website, I do believe that you'll find what you seek.

You have several advantages going for you, as I mentioned earlier, you are articulate, you know what you want, most importantly, you have youth. Be patient.

FYI- I don't believe in mentoring or looking up to someone who appears to be more successful when it comes to swinging. Perhaps I'm an anomaly, but I don't do that whole, reputable single male thing, I find that to be a huge turn off. I would rather swing with a guy with no certs, than a guy that comes *highly recommended* by an army that had sex with him prior to me. I just don't want to know.

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Welcome to the forums. If you are really serious about enjoying the LS as a single, read through the dozens (hundreds?) of threads dedicated to being a succesful single male. Rule one: Never whine or complain. lol

Attitude goes a long way and I might add, so does networking which means attending M&Gs and parties and yes, getting certified. Of course YOU know you are real but until a hot couple sings your praises, your profile will not even be seen by many on this site.

Good luck and have fun!

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