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TOPIC: we are newbies help us start on the right foot
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we both have interest in the LS and have had many conversations over it. What key questions / situations should be asking each other about to make sure we are on the right path. we want this to be a great experience. I have been reading the different forums and they have been so helpful in bringing up possible situations we never thought of talking about. Thanks to all that take the time, it is great. I just want to make sure we are not missing anything to communicate about.

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Thorough communication, especially before the first play date, is critical. But understand that situations will come up as you progress in the LS that you'll probably need to discuss, too. For example, we attended our first house party a couple of months ago, and the "separate room" issue came up (private play rooms). We had previously been same room only, but obviously that wouldn't fly in this situation. We were fine and talked about it later. But the point is that stuff may come up as you go along. We make it a point to be totally open about all these things, and so far, so good. Good luck to you!

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And you need to be completely honest with each other.

You will likely not cover every topic before hand so just keep an open mind and talk, talk, talk.

You will find that you like some things but not others, there are those that do not kiss and those that think it is an important part. Some want to be friends first and other don't even care if they know your name.

One of the things that helped us early on was an escape word. When we met a new couple and something came up either of us wanted to discuss before moving on we found a way to signal with our escape word. We just wanted to be sure we were on the same page before we did anything.

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First thing you need to do is decide what level of the lifestyle you want to be in. IE mfm, mfmf, fmf. Then you have to discuss ground rules. Like play on the first date and such. As you go along you will realize what you are comfortable with and discuss that with your partner. You have to comunicate. Thats key. You have to be on the same page.

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Welcome to the forums they are a great area to start to get alot of information on a variety of subjects.

Spring TX
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we both have interest in the LS and have had many conversations over it. What key questions / situations should be asking each other about to make sure we are on the right path. we want this to be a great experience. I have been reading the different forums and they have been so helpful in bringing up possible situations we never thought of talking about. Thanks to all that take the time, it is great. I just want to make sure we are not missing anything to communicate about.

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TOPIC: we are newbies help us start on the right foot