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TOPIC: vasectomy vs tubal ligation
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Well, Quite honestly.... If a couple is swinging.... then the COUPLE should both be 'child proof'. It just makes sense.. and you will end up having a MUCH better time NOT having to worry of such events.

If both people in the couple KNOW they don't want to have children. then married or not, it makes a good decision. I have 3 kids. and I got pregnant with 2 of them USING birth control............I lost faith in it and feel so much more content and relaxed knowing it is no longer an issue in my life. :-)

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Both should be done. Condoms do break,come off etc or If you decide not to use condoms then it is nessary for both. Be sure you do not want children first, nether one can be "undone" easy, they are ment to be a perment form of birth control.

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I got a tubal done after having all the children I wanted,HOWEVER< it is safer and easier for a man to have the external snip snip than a woman to have the internal work done. And far less scarring!!!!!!

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For us, it was more about what made her most comfortable.

As we never intended to have children, any pregancy would be unplanned, and for the most part, unwelcome (please don't judge us; we love kids, we just don't want any).

Rather than deal with said unwanted pregnancy, and for her comfort level to be where she wanted it, she elected to go with a tubal ligation.

(As a side comment, anyone who DOES NOT have children, who would like to get "fixed", plan ahead. We had to see seven (7) doctors before we found one who would perform the surgery. Seems the doctors tend to defend the moral high ground when it comes to shutting the baby factory down. It took her literally two (2) years to go from decision to surgery).

She thinks it's fantastic, and is never worried now.

We do, however, discuss getting me "snipped", as we play currently with a few "fertile" couples, and while we love them, we don't think they want to ever bear our children for us...

I suspect I will also go under the knife soon. It's not a big issue for me, and I understand the pain isn't a big deal either. More of a convenience thing.

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Just to add my 2 cents into the mix.......I (Cat) had my tubes tied 22 years ago, with the birth of my son, whom I conceived while continuously on the BC pill - talk about surprises!!! The ligation was done laparoscopically, with general anesthesia - I had absolutely no complications then or in the ensuing years. I have many friends and clients who have had tubals with no problems, so I am mystified about reports of extreme complications with this type of surgery. The biggest complication would be from the general anesthesia - with the laparascope, the biggest scar is in the navel, otherwise there is no indication of the surgical site. It has been wonderful not to have to worry about pregancy, but this is strictly for the woman who absolutely does not want to get pregnant again - reversal is tricky and not very successful.

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We were pretty new to the lifestyle..and we were at a small party in a hotel room with a few others. We were all having a good time and the guy I was messing around with was teasing me with the head of his cock in the opening of my vagina. When hubby saw what was going on he told the guy to put on a condom..and the guy said I am not even close to cumming. Hubby replied condom now! Afterward I questioned him as to why he insisted at that stage...he said what if he had some precum and you got pregnant? I was taken back by the whole thing, the thought had never crossed my mind because hubby was snipped 20 years before that. I have no children and don't know if I could get pregnant, but the potential for disaster was there.Condoms are not always safe...they break or come off..ask my hubby he knows all about it after being in a loveless marriage for 20 years because of condom failure. I had the tubal done by laprascope shortly after that incident..and I was playing at a house party the following week. Sure there are risks...but the outcome of not having to worry about an unwanted pregnancy to a swinging encounter made it well worth while. We are both surgically safe.... but we still practice safe sex! Kathie

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I guess it would depend on who takes the dare!

Actually, I was sick of the pill and those other messy cxontraceptives, so I WIN....LOL

We're soft swap at this time, anyway, so we don't apply here.

Sorry, I can't help myself sometimes, go back to your regularly scheduled debates.

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I do have some direct advice to you COUPLE that would probably help you...Being that I don't know who is posting (Mr. or Ms.) I will direct it to both of ya'll...Ya know child birth/having a new child in the house, can and does take a lot out of a person. Possibly you need a nap or something? "J"

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"Yes, we do REALLY know how to use a condom which means we also know how to make sure partners are using them correctly, don't be so condescending. Using a condom correctly is NOT rocket science."

First of all you would be surprised. You may not think that it isn't rocket science, but there are plenty that don't know how and it goes far more than what the Porn Industry can even say.

"If you are really that concerned about people using them correctly, why don't you tell them, instead of talking down to people?"

Believe me dear, I do and have to thousands, and will continue to do so if I feel or see the need.

"Why was it more important for you to tell us about your medical background than to offer actual constructive advice on how to use a condom correctly?"

Because it was relevant to what was my opinion of your posting as ya'll being naive. Oh and I could have given constructive advice; however remember you said it youself, why should I care. It wasn't the right time nor the thread to do it as in my opinion this wasn't the intent of the original poster of this thread to get off track. On second thought, I do believe somewhere here on this forum board I probably already have given advice on the proper use of a condom on several occasions. Also I mentioned my background (medical and lifestyle) because I have seen and experienced more than most of the general population (fact). Too bad you couldn't handle that fact.

In closing I would like to say to you that it is really too bad that you felt that I was being condescending. Perhaps that stems from you not having a teachable spirit and that is a shame. Good thing I didn't offer up advice, as it would have gone in one ear and out the other and wouldn't have made a bit of difference anyway.

"J"

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Couplenit4fun...But it does matter to me and it should matter to you as well, in my opinion. Hopefully that other person that Mrs. Couplenit4fun is fucking is using the condom properly it is all good, and do ya'll truly know how to use condoms properly? I have found in all the years I was in medicine (I have been retired for 2 years after 20+ years in a field that deals with protection on a daily basis) and in my years in the lifestyle I have found that a large majority of people don't REALLY know. Also remember that you are "sleeping" with each and every person that the person that you are fucking has ever "slept" with. Food for thought.

"J"

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