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Kind ,

Great response ! At any given time the exact same comment can either be a dig or a compliment depending on the tone used and the ears listening. That being said my partner knows my frail points and therefore does what he can to feed my securities and not add to my insecurities. I don't believe Mr Sav "holds" back ANYTHING but as a responsible loving adult he has mastered the art of tact and is very sensitive to the needs of other people...his playmate of the moment as well as mine. I still firmly believe that ANY comparison to one's own spouse should never be spoken out loud. If one can not form a compliment to a person without at the same time insulting someone else they should remain silent. Privately and publicly. I also pity both parties, the giver and the receiver if they feel flattered to hear things like that or think it is somehow the most flattering thing you can say. The world is full of differences to be celebrated and enjoyed but with a keen sense of different isn't always "better" and their comments should reflect that. I also many people struggle with "what" to say and mindlessly say what they think you want to hear. I'm a skeptic on many levels and don't buy into lame ass compliments that reflect words like "best" hottest" tightest" blah blah blah. Many men I have been with will right out ask....."Am I the best you've ever had " at such and such? How very sad that only by telling them they are the BEST do they feel good about themselves. Questions like those I refuse to answer and if pushed chances are the asker will not like the answer I give lol. The art of flirtation is not the words you speak but the sincerity behind them. Tell me you're having a great time and I'll believe you , tell me I'm the best you ever had and I'll laugh at you and pity your social skills at the same time. I'm not insecure in the least but I am wise enough to know that when one resorts to compliments such as that chances are they couldn't think of anything genuine to say. Maybe it is just me but please don't try to flatter me with bullshit and do not ever compare my body, my style or anything else about me with your wife. I will not allow you to insult her like that to me.

Mrs Sav

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YEA SS!!! hows that?

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What? No cheering section for me? Haha. Didn't think so. It is a shame though how some want to take what should be a little fun between two people and make it into something personal because they don't like one of the two.

Deb, you know me well enough to know I can take a joke. I just wish one or two of your friends could laugh as much when the joke is on them. :/

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Now see, that's funny. And I've heard you can take it as well as you give it.

And I mean I've heard it from everyone. :p

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LOL

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Priceless !!

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RDY....you owe me a cup of coffee, I just spit mine all over the screen lol.

Another perfect example of why I adore you and your sense of humor !

Mrs Sav

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"raise your hand if your partner has even one insecurity..."

Hand raised.

K has always been insecure about the size of her dick.

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Okay, so we pretty much agree that saying negative things about your spouse in most instances is wrong and a turn off.

You don't have to say something negative to hurt your spouse though. Saying too much positive to a play partner can do the same thing.

So raise your hand if you or your spouse has at least one little insecurity about something. Whether it is body size, dick size, boobs, a belly, too much body hair, a chipped tooth, receding hairline, stretch marks, whatever....

If someone isn't comfortable with something and their spouse keeps saying how much they like that about their play partner, I imagine it would start to bother them. So because of that, even if unintentionally, we hold back.

Then in same room play, would you be bothered by it if your spouse kept commenting on that thing to their play partner?

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We have had a few instances of the other couple saying things that we both thought is a slap in their spouse face. Me and Mrs. John talked about it afterwards about what they said and thought it was inappropriate to say in front of their spouse. Me personally, If i think the other woman did something to me that I believe was something Mrs John could do, we would experiment on that, but in no way would I say something in front of her while with the other couple.

It makes no sense to say something to hurt your spouses feelings at that time of sexual pleasure, just enjoy it and work on it with your spouse at a later date.

ALSO, just because someone can do something better than your spouse does not make it a bad thing, some people are built different, so some things just hit your sweet spot a bit better, some people can do different things with their mouths that others cant, some women are tighter, some men are different sizes, I accept the fact that i'm not the best in every aspect of love making, this is why I and Mrs John always talk and ask what each other likes and experiment even after 28 years of marriage, but we also realize that because she enjoyed something one day does not mean she will enjoy it the next day, we have our different moods.

As far as same room goes, we prefer it, because we enjoy watching each other in such a sexual state that it turns us on, plus we prefer everyone just touching everyone where maybe 2 or 3 of us can gang up on the another if we want. I do not do or act any different being in a true foursome than I do if I'm with a woman alone in a separate room. we like to play with couples more than a few times so we get more comfortable with them and more things will develop and more likely to try more things with that couple. This is suppose to be for fun with someone you love and care about, we want to share that with each other, we can't if we are in separate rooms.

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