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TOPIC: newbies_seeking_advice
Created by: derekandsarah
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We have been trying to find the best place to get into the lifestyle. Since we don't know anyone, its hard to go to a random party without knowing what to expect or what to do when there. I guess were nervous that we aren't as good looking as most on here and don't want our 1st experience to ruin our desires of being swingers by being rejected. Does anyone have advice or a good place around the MA/NH area for us to just watch and break the ice with other cples? It feels like the 1st time slow dancing as a teen or 1st kiss.lol help us please!! lol

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Are there any local clubs near you? Typically, if you are a new member, either the owners or pre-designated "seasoned vets" will take you for a tour, explain the rules, and introduce you to some of the regulars.

Our very first time at a club, we were lucky to get a GREAT tour guide, he knows everyone, and showed us around, and then allowed us to get comfortable, and checked back in, inviting us to the bar with a group of people and introductions were flying.

If it's NOT standard practice at your local club(s), ask when you arrive - just say "Hey... we're new to this, do you think someone could show us around?"

Pittsburgh PA
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Just pick a party or club and go. You will be fine watching, or playing with each other, if that's what you want. If someone invites you for more, say yes if you want, decline politely otherwise. You can say that you are new and are there just to observe. PM me if you want recommendations for specific events.

One possibility is to establish contacts on SLS (email or IM) and then agree to meet your new friends at a party.

Cambridge MA
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Being rejected is part of the game.

No one is compatible with everyone so you need to have a little bit of thick skin and move onto someone who is compatible.

Dayton OH
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Thanks. Were hoping to go to a party this weekend, were very excited to be ourselves sexually and meet other cples who share the same desires :) . But if any cples would like to bring us to one please feel free to email us. We are available most Saturdays.

Tyngsboro MA
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D&S welcome to the forums.

Choose a party. Go to the party. Do not worry about what anyone thinks, just be yourselves. If you want to simply look around and check it out go ahead. No one should expect you to do anything unless you both want to. If you feel pressure from anyone, they are in the wrong, not you. When you are both ready, just say hi. If its a good party, you're all there for the same reason. If you get uncomfortable leave, and try again at another party until you feel right.

Have fun.

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We have been trying to find the best place to get into the lifestyle. Since we don't know anyone, its hard to go to a random party without knowing what to expect or what to do when there. I guess were nervous that we aren't as good looking as most on here and don't want our 1st experience to ruin our desires of being swingers by being rejected. Does anyone have advice or a good place around the MA/NH area for us to just watch and break the ice with other cples? It feels like the 1st time slow dancing as a teen or 1st kiss.lol help us please!! lol

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