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Generally speaking, jealousy is rooted in a fear of loss. Time and experience, if someone survives long enough, demonstrates that the fear has no grounds in reality. Some people are very fearful, some are not. It's an individual thing that each person needs to work through with their spouse or SO. If you both understand what makes the other uncomfortable/fearful, then you can work on it together and things will get lots better. Even if you don't remain in the lifestyle, you'll have that improvement in your communication skills to solidify your 'foundation' of trust and commitment.

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you need to take things absolutely slowly and at the pace of your most hesitant partner. Never be in a hurry. Never fall to pressure or expectations. You do not get an award or a ribbon if and when you have sex with others. There is no reason for rushing into anything. As far as jealousy goes...well, that is up to you. Some people are more naturally inclined towards those emotions than others. I would suggest constant communication. Never assume anything or that you read your partner's mind. Do not assume. Always ask. And if you do start feeling jealous, know that you are not alone. All of us that will admit to it will tell you...it has happened. It does not make you a bad person, it just means that you need to at least temporarily stop play and talk with your spouse about what you are feeling or thinking. There is no easy answer to this one...just take things very slowly.

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