height and weight proportionate and other phrases that confuse me: Swingers Discussion 352061021

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height and weight proportionate and other phrases that confuse me: Swingers Discussion 352061021

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User Details are only visible to members.	Eternalbliss- No one on here is slamming you. They are merely giving you their opinions on the topic you put forth. We are one of the couples who have the words height-weight proportinate on our profile. It is what we are looking for. That's why it is there. We don't only meet people built exactly like us but we do try to stay within certain limits. We are comfortable with how our bodies mesh and tend to look for similar builds in our play partners. I am an average sized woman(130-ish lbs.and 5'5") so I don't feel comfortable playing with men over 260 lbs. They are too big for me. My husband is a bigger guy. He's 6'4 and 235 lbs. He does not want to play with a woman his size. That's our choice. We aren't saying we wouldn't socialize with people that we wouldn't play with. We have the right to be picky with who we play with. The bottom line is that's why this site exists. We think that lying to a couple we are not interested in playing with(saying we are too far away, too busy, etc.) is a lot more rude and disrespectful than just being up front and honest in your profile. That's why there is a question asking "what are you looking for?" in the essay part of the profile. If you don't like what people put in their profile, keep looking. There are lots of profiles because not everyone will be a match for each other. One other bit of advice- Being negative is not a turn on for a lot of people. If you are constantly complaining about lack of meetings, quality of play time, etc. many couples will not be interested. A lot of couples use these boards as a personality gauge to see how others react to things and what their views are. You guys just might want to take a break for awhile and come back when you can both feel good about the lifestyle again. Not bashing you at all. Just trying to give some helpful advice. Good luck. Also, we do think your new profile and pics should help you out some. Hope no matter what you guys decide that it works out for you both.
Allentown PA			Username hidden (807 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	we understand totally what you are saying.We have been part of the problem and also been on ther other side of a solution. Welcome to the most closed minded people of all alternative lifestyles.This is what makes it great, its called preferences.We get to file a profile, each persons wants, needs and desires with not one profile exactly like any other.Yes they may be similar but yet none are the same. Its a shame that blanket statements are made to justify what each person wants needs and desires Such as we are not compatable sexually . yes all are compatable sexually . We all do it the same way.Its our mental desires which are also our visual desires which means what .who we are attracted to. Suzy and I are larger people she 5'10 and in heels over 6 foot 180 I am almost 6 foot tall and 190. There is no way we will go up to a couple where she is close to 5 foot and 100 pounds and he is close to 160 pounds. Take a look at how they are built , thats what they would be attracted to.We loook for couples where the females are taller the males are taller, a better fit for us.I married my wife, guess what she is what I like in a female.Almost every female to date in 7 years of swinging have had the qualities that my wife has both, physically and mentally.Ths same is true of the males she has been attracted to .They are not short and thin,some have been talller.Are shorter smaller ladies attractive yes are they attractive to me physically , are they a female I may want NO.Normally they do not have the breasts that I like nor the eyes. On the same token, a shorter female carrying the same weight that my wife has or more is not what i see as attractive for me.ie 5 foot 180. Sorry but thats the way it is for all. However if we see a guy built like myself and a smaller woman , that says to us its ok. Or the opposite taller female with a shorter man,taller,thinner man and a woman built like Suzy that also says thats its ok to write. Do some people tend to stray from what they both look like, of couse they can.There is never an always the only always will be it is never. Its not that people are being rude, we have to remember to stay with what will make you happy and what you are mentally and visually attracted to.So many see a very hot body and say wow lets write them . I willl not say to have a chance,that cracks me up.Chance has nothing to do with it its the closed mind that does. In closing,these are general statements ,anyone that has half a brain can find an exception to what i have said in here, but most of it is true to form. Chances are greater that if they had said lets meet you would have been more disappointed in them as people for coming with nothing that was user friendly for you both.
Sarasota FL			Username hidden (2070 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	as was stated in the first posting,i knew i'd get slammed for this..but we have nothing left to lose...so we figured even if we get shot down in flames that someone else might see our posting and have the courage to speak up..and then maybe someone will see their posting etc... i realize that there must be sexual attraction...are we attracted to every profile we see? no,definitely not. i had a long reply planned but why bother... those who were gifted by God to be perfect...this posting does not apply to you..i am very happy that you were born with a perfect size and appearance.. to those that are ummm not quite so perfect,please don't throw stones when living in a glass house...we all do the best we can with what we're given.. best of luck to all... no longer smiling,no longer caring bill
Grantville PA			Username hidden (78 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	understandable... also,can see why some people would feel insecure.. smiles have a great day :)
Grantville PA			Username hidden (78 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	i know i'm going to get slammed for this...but as we're close to leaving the site anyway,we felt it's time to speak our mind on this...we've been members for 2 years and have looked through ALOT of profiles...and we've noticed alot of people using that phrase or "no heavies" and oddly enough many of those that write this are not perfect 10's in body and MOST are not very attractive face wise...the ones that are absolutely beautiful in all ways..ok,i guess you have a right to be picky if you are perfect so we won't comment on that... but geez,doesn't anyone realize how rude it is to write something like that in your profile? if someone isn't your body type that you are looking for,simply don't reply or give a polite "no thank you,we're too far away " or "we're very busy we'll get back to you" i realize i may be a bit touchy,but isn't it shallow to not even talk to someone just because they are a few pounds overweight? maybe not everyone has the time in their schedual to get to a gym 4 hours a day,but maybe the person is eating very small portions,walking when they can,doing all they can to look their best.....personally,what we find is a bigger turn off for us,is people that just post pics of their private parts thinking that is attractive yes we have a few pics like that but we also have a variety of others too i realize i'm venting,but i just get frustrated....my wife is VERY beautiful and gets hit on all the time when we go out to see bands etc.. through my job i get hit on too,so people outside of here do find us attractive,but sadly those people are not in the lifestyle and we play as a couple,that is our rule maybe in seperate rooms but always in the same house thanks for reading this and letting me vent....and please if others feel this way as in frustrated please post...because if enough of us speak up,maybe people will see how hurtful it is to say things like "fatties are not wanted" yes we saw that in a profile thanks for reading smiling,at least trying to,as always bill of the Tina and bill couple eternalbliss
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