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TOPIC: having a good house party

Created by: dressup4yu69 Original Starting post for this thread:
Hi all, Last Friday we nearly had a BUST of a house party. It ended great but we had alot of flakes and alot of no shows. Anyone have any advice for having a good house party? Setup? Food? Games? Getting people to the bedroom? thanks--J&N

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User Details are only visible to members.	In our experience, attending house parties is a 'chicken/egg' thing. If you haven't attended a house party before, you won't get invited to house parties. If you're not invited, you can't attend (and won't even know about them 'til you catch the chit-chat about that great party last weekend). We spent many years on the outside looking in, hearing all about the great parties that we were not invited to, until we started our own group.
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (629 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Now, as far as the original post goes. i would suggest you go to a couple private parties and see how they are setup, talk to the host, get names of people you talk to and if you like them, invite them to your party later. or talk to people who are throwing the parties from this site and other sites you belong to and ask for advise, people most of the time are happy to help.
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (2058 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	** Every club we have been to considers this a membership fee to a private club. I'm sure there is a reason for this. ** A membership fee is not considered the same as an admittance fee, there are different laws for both. I know that charging a membership fee is the way to go, less implications. i'm not sure on all the aspects between the two, but a lawyer would know more, all local laws are different so check in your area. by the way, if you charge a admittance fee, not only can you be fined and locked up but so can the people in the house at the time, and that can be embarrassing. so make sure in your advertisement for the party you always use the word membership fee and never admittance fee.
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (2058 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Guess we have to define what kind of party is being discussed here. The subject of the thread clearly states "house party." I don't think I could ever charge anyone for attending a party at our house, no matter how much I have invested in food, liquor, entertainment, etc. Just doesn't seem appropriate. Nor would we attend a house party that we had to pay for. Yes we were invited to one where the hosts of the party expected to collect money, and we chose not to go for that specific reason, even though we knew most of the couples attending and it would have been a hell of a party. Again, just doesn't seem right. If we're talking about hosting a party that is advertised and open to anyone that wants to sign up, I amagine you will incur costs and it would be fair to re-coup some of your expenses, just like every swinger club does. Every club we have been to considers this a membership fee to a private club. I'm sure there is a reason for this.
Oceanside CA			Username hidden (25 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Valovers is correct, once you charge, you are considered a business and you'll be breaking alot more laws which could result in stiff fines or ending up in court. without charging it's considered a private party. also consider where you life, if you have a lot of people show up, and there isn't a lot of parking in your area, you'll always get that one neighbor who calls the police. the less the police show up the better. know who you are inviting, if you get a single who shows up uninvited and you turn them away they could be an issue outside and disturb the neighbors. you can find out about the laws for swing party at local city hall or even a lawyer.
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (2058 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Really bad idea to charge admission. You could be charged with running a house of prostitution. Don't even think of charging. Jim
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8158 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I am a veteran party planner so I know what I'm talking about. A party where nobody has to make a financial commitment will have a no-show rate of 25 to 60 percent. That is the way it is. The man says they are coming when the wife hasn't bought in...something comes up...they don't feel like it. Whatever. If you want to control the guest list, charge for admission and make them pay in advance. Even if it's only $20, when people pay something they are psychologically invested and your no show rate will be dramatically lower. If it is a casual thing where people don't pay then you have to expect a huge no show rate and plan accordingly. If I have a small party (for me a party with less than 30 people is "small") then I invite only people I know well. I communicate in advance and let them know I EXPECT them to show up. They know if they don't show up they are messing up the party for everyone else and I will be unhappy with them. Sometimes I assign each person/couple a food item to bring. Again, if someone commits to bring something they are psychologically committed. As far as breaking the ice, a woman just has to take out someone's cock and suck on it. If that doesn't work you invited the wrong people.
Springfield VA			Username hidden (262 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We have hosted a few parties and it always seems that about half show up. They're not flaking, just can't make it out that night and we understand. We tend to stick with people we know, even if we haven't played with them before. I would never invite a new and uncertified couple we've never met! Just asking for trouble. When it comes to how many to invite, be carefull what you wish for! One time the stars must have been aligned perfectly and everyone showed. Between 15 and 20 couples I think. Spent more time hosting than playing, and made multiple trips for bags of ice and booze and mixers. Not that I mind cuz that party is still being talked about a year later, lol.
Oceanside CA			Username hidden (25 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	And I was mellow that evening. I have been known to get a little crazy. Carrie
Corpus Christi TX			Username hidden (16499 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	And invite Carrie, cause she is a partying somebody! Thems some great people, those Corpus Christi swingers.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23638 post)

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TOPIC: having a good house party