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"Developing friendships is great but then if it doesn't work out sexually now you've got a potential bad situation. "

we've had this happen more with us by just meeting a couple first for drinks and then we're not interested after the initial meeting. twice in the past we have met a couple that we became friends with, had more than a few meetings with and decided to not meet anymore and told them we are moving on. they understood fully. we think it just depends how good your judgement is in choosing a couple . after all we also have couples get upset after just by saying no after reading their profile and looking at their pics and never met them. also the couples who tend to get upset more are just that, couples as appose to married couples.

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"im fine with that but why put it in the profile and say it multiple times if you really only want to swing"

Perhaps they do prefer to have friends, but like you guys really as just play partners?

We tend to do things the other way - establish them as swing partners first. Developing friendships is great but then if it doesn't work out sexually now you've got a potential bad situation.

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Ran ~~ Just want to make sure I'm understanding your post. You're frustrated that couples who claim to want repeat encounters and an ongoing friendship don't do that. They just put it in their profile because they think that's what many couples are looking for.

If that is the case, then I would do two things: Really pay attention to certs (I would look for certs that specifically say, "have known these two for a long time..." OR, ask them through e-mail, "I see from your profile that you enjoy having swing friends that you play AND socialize with.. So do we! Just curious, how often do you get together?" They should have no problem with these questions if that is, in fact, what they do.

Just wish people would be honest! Best wishes : )

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we meet with three other couples on a regular basis, we have become great friends, the eight of us even all met together at one time set up by us after asking the other couples if thats ok. but on occasion we do meet with someone new and do play, we enjoy being close with our group because we know what each other likes at this point that it makes the time together that much more fun. we can start sexual activity right off the bat or party all night without sex, we all have just as much fun.

but we can't tell couples they have to be exclusive to us, it's not our place to say that, even if thats what is in their profile.

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