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TOPIC: Whatever happened to good ole' fashioned common courtesy!!
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Twonluv, Great advice! Only thing I have to add is that you should not hesitate to reach out to the wild couples you are attracted to. We still enjoy soft swap although we don't advertise it. As former soft swappers we find it's much easier (and fun) for us to go down to your level than it is for you to come up to ours. Worst thing that could happen is they say no.

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"Stop expecting anything from others and you won't be disappointed or frustrated" ...words to live by Mrs. Savandwin! Now where is that "Car buying service" we were looking for?!? ;-)

We used to drop folks a line just to compliment them on a nice profile, you know just to be friendly in the hopes of making a new friend if nothing else, but when fewer and fewer replied with a simple thanks we just kinda gave up. Now (knowing that "compatible folks" are few and far between) we only reach out to the ones that are (1) Paid Members, (2) Tame/Moderate like us, (3) compatible interests and finally (4) relatively close. Of course that narrows the field considerable down to about 2 couples!

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We have noticed a change in the few short years we've be in the lifestyle. Seems like more vanillias are checking out the lifestyle with no intentions of ever swapping, much less responding to an email. Don't know if the "50 Shades of Lame" book has anything to do with it, but we noticed that of about 200 couples signed up for a 50 Shades theme party we were considering, at least 75 couples were free SLS members and listed as tame. Needless to say, but we passed on that one. As far as courtesy goes, it's a two way street. We are very selective in whom we reach out to. We respect the age and play preferences of the couples we contact. On the other hand, when someone contacts us and has obviously not read our profile or opened pics, we feel no obligation to provide a courteous response, or any response for that matter.

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Mrs Sav - I'll take your car for a test drive anytime! If I'm in town and it's available? :-)'

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For some swinging is like buying a new car. They'll look at 100's , express interest in a many, test drive a few and buy only one. For those they express interest in they immediately eliminate based on year, make , model , color, mileage. Like looking for a new car they feel no need to call the seller back and tell them they are no longer interested. That sounds pretty impersonal but simply how it is....depersonalize the "selling" aspect of it. Like any salesmen you're going to show that car to a 100 potential buyers before finding someone with interest. Stop expecting anything from others and you won't be disappointed or frustrated. Just because they've inquired doesn't mean they're serious buyers, just because they're serious buyers doesn't mean they want to test drive( meet) , just because they test drive (meet) doesn't mean they want to buy, just because they make an offer doesn't mean they'll have the cash(show up)and just because they show up doesn't mean they will really enjoy the ride . Good ole's common courtesy is practically extinct in the land of internet. It is an impersonal venue for seeking what you look for and therefore people feel no need to get personal, make things personal nor take things personally. Always remember it isn't the "car" it is the buyer who is simply looking for a different "ride" than you are offering. Mrs Sav

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The most discourteous is when they initiate first contact and you respond positively, open pics, etc and then nothing. Not even a "Sorry, but, no thanks". Why bother in the first place if you can't even say yes or no once you receive opened pics and a response back to YOUR initial contact.

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Being HER is from the west coast and Him from the east SLS seems a harder place to get to know people than wc sites...i find more flakes her than in Los Angeles and as a previous LAer I take pride in our flakiness( to a point). WE always respond...You may not like it but we try and be nice. When we email people, it is more than just one sentence and it is always HER that emails. We are on time, do not flake...just rude...and the girls make the rules ;)

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"Common courtesy" is an oxymoron. Courtesy is anything BUT common!

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Sorry for your bad experiences as well WannaTry, but take heart in the fact that you got further than we do most of the time. we just don't understand how people can create an account here, go the extra step of corresponding and trying to get to know you but not want to at least meet in person?

Fairview Heights IL
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Wanna - sorry for your "flake" experiences...with that new photo, I can't even imagine...Their loss I tell you!

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