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TOPIC: What's wrong with us
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Well we are getting better at it. We are talking to more people on here which is translating to talking at the club so that has helped a bit. Plus we have been there twice so people are starting to see our face more and are starting to talk to us more, so it's getting there.....LOL

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"if everyone at the party is shy....who talks to who?" People socialize with others that they're already acquainted with. It's called cliques, and we've seen cliques destroy clubs because management doesn't introduce the new ppl around, they're too shy to approach others, and newbies are shut out of the cliques. Unless, of course, they're both 24 and buff, in which case they're inundated. lol


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fl, if everyone at the party is shy....who talks to who?


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flhotfun, keep in mind that many of the couples attending those parties with you are just as shy as you are. the sooner you get to the point where you can approach others, the sooner you are likely to start enjoying the fun you are here for.

what's that old saying? "the target you are guaranteed to miss is the one you never take a shot at."

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We have the same issue. Every event we have been to regardless of what it was we have never been approached. We are always well dressed, any Tat's and piercings are hidden from view and we are always smiling. We are shy so we aren't so good at doing the approaching, but we will get there. We still have a lot of fun at the events, plenty of eye candy, and we just enjoy ourselves. We know it will be our time at some point!!

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Well, since you asked . . . .

First of all, your profile virtually screams "Don't bother with us." I mean, you TELL people you aren't the kind that people play with. I suggest rewriting your profile, removing everything you put in red font (it's mostly negative stuff - and nobody finds that attractive).

Second, you should realize that your experience is TYPICAL. Most people would prefer to BE approached rather than do the approaching. That allows them to avoid being turned down. But if everybody sits around waiting to be approached, then nobody is approached.

Your negativity may be sending vibes to people, too. You need to work on being more positive and upbeat and outgoing and above all, full of smiles and warm greetings.

I hope this doesn't offend you, because I'm only trying to help you. And remember, NOBODY is everybody's cup of tea. So no matter how warm and friendly and smiley and upbeat and positive you are, you will experience your share of "no thank yous."

Cheer up a little, in person and in your profile. Your luck just may change for the better.

Jim

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