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TOPIC: We were thinking about having our first house party
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We are still newish 2 years into the Lifestyle. And Think we are ready to have a house party in a couple of months. This is new to us but we think the layout of our house is good. But want to know any advice anyone could help us with. Food Drinks, If we should porn playing on the TV to set the mood stuff like that? Thanks Tim and Jen.

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Hey thanks 4 all the advise.

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We've had very successful house parties. It's important to have some sort of room or area that is more private than others, and one or more areas set up for more group or exhibitionistic play. Also, have an area (for us it was the kitchen/dining room area) that is neutral, where people can just talk, refresh, get a snack, drink and socialize. Not everyone will be there to actually have sex. A lot of the times my husband played host and I got to have the fun time with whom I chose, or whom chose me, mutually, whatever.

you can do a "theme," where everyone wears a certain color, mostly ladies in lingerie, etc. We had a night where we all rented a party limo and bar hopped and did a wine tasting night, and went out, then back to our house. If people are just standing around talking and waiting, I WILL make the first move, either by taking off my top, or by having a good friend to go down on...and that gets things rolling.

Keep a sense of humor and nip any drama in the bud (and yes there have been "those" couples at parties, ugh). Ice breaker games can include a "have you ever" type game where you ask a question similar to those in the same forum of this name, and if you "have," then you drop a quarter in a jar. Usually ends up going to charity, or helping with expenses, if that's important to you. It makes for laughs and raised eyebrows and eases nervousness. I've also created a "get to know you" type paper where people have to go around and ask people to initial things such as "find someone wearing a new thong," "find someone who will show you his/her tattoo," "find someone who has already had sex today," etc.

We provide food and drinks. NEVER have donations or money fees of any kind...that's just wrong. Do not play in any kids' rooms in your house, ugh. Some people, us included, have included little gift bags with mints, a condom, etc, or again, themed things, but that's not necessary.

Make sure people know your "rules." Ours included being discreet coming in and out of our house (in other words, no fucking on the lawn), and if you are messy, please clean up after yourselves, including proper condom disposal. Just general consideration for another person's home. Easy enough. And easier when you know the people you are inviting.

We had a lot of various rooms in our home, and open areas where we set up an air mattress with sheets and a blanket. Makes for a lot fo work afterwards doing laundry, but that goes with the territory. We also set out towels and washcloths on each bed and area, in the hopes that people would use them if necessary.

One rule was also if a door is closed, you do not enter it; if a door is left open, then it's an open invitation to either join in the fun going on, or to be a watcher, etc.

One of our couple friends were definitely not into single men, so when they came to a party, it was couples only because we wanted that couple to feel comfortable. Some parties you are welcome to bring friends, etc. That's up to you to set the tone, the rules, etc. It's your house, your "rules."

The trick is to also have fun at your own party. Good luck! GIna

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We have never hosted a house party. We have been to some that were a bust, some that were okay and the ones that were fabulous. I say this as if it were my mantra, but I believe in it. The ones that are good are always the ones that were fun. For me, getting fucked at an okay party is "that was okay." And for me, not getting fucked at a fun party is me thinking about the fun I had at work all week. Fun is fun. BUT some look for different things. I have talked to many people who were blown away by the fact that we had fun despite the fact that we did not fuck strange. Like others said, getting compatible people together is key. If everyone is there to have fun, its gonna be fun. If some are there to have fun and some there to fuck only...and nobody is fucking because they are having fun downstairs, you will have discontent.

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I've been to house parties and hotel parties...

I think its vital to have some good "icebreaker" games... gets everyone laughing and flirting.

Another fun option can be to have an assortment of toys set out on a table... usually them women will go through them and get excited about experiencing new ones.

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We are still newish 2 years into the Lifestyle. And Think we are ready to have a house party in a couple of months. This is new to us but we think the layout of our house is good. But want to know any advice anyone could help us with. Food Drinks, If we should porn playing on the TV to set the mood stuff like that? Thanks Tim and Jen.

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