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TOPIC: Things you would tell new people entering the lifestyle

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User Details are only visible to members.	Hi hopes, but low expectations for 1st meetings; If it's a no go, back out politely and never burn your bridges! You never know --- last year's duds might have dramatically changed their game plan...
Charlotte NC			Username hidden (544 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Treat everything as a Meet and Greet, just have fun. Rem to laugh, answer all E mails, and if is never wrong to say No thanks not interested. Just be nice about it.
Creedmoor NC			Username hidden (7 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Whenever meeting a new couple always arrange to meet them at a place that the two of you enjoy. That way if they don't show up you still have a good time. Besides being good specific advice, it also applies to the experience a whole.
Ann Arbor MI			Username hidden (24 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	have fun and do not take it seriously. the minute you start taking it too seriously the fun stops and it becomes an unpaid job.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23612 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	my advice for "newbies" COMMUNICATION, TRUTH, HONESTY, and don't take anything personally.... And above all KNOW your partners limits, wants and desires...(file under communication)
Lancaster OH			Username hidden (128 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Advice to new people entering the lifestyle... Ensure you are experimenting for the right reasons! If your relationship does not have a solid foundation and it is during a time period of unrest in said relationship, swinging may not be the avenue to save your relationship. There are an abundant of rellationships that didn't survive this lifestyle. Betotally honest and transparent with each other. While flirting with others, share the experiences with each other... Have a discussion to ensure both partners have the same expectations and agree on the types of play... It is all about being mutual: communications, commitment, expectations and play... And... the friends you will make --both in and out of bed--will be among the best.. V
Mantoloking NJ			Username hidden (7757 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You referred to your intelligence favorably by referencing an article that says Ashkenazi are the most intelligent people in their world. Unless there are any other Ashkenazi here, I took that as meaning you consider yourself smarter than everyone else here, other than me. Okay, it was a bit of a leap, but the logic was still tighter than 99% of the fallacious argument that permeates the political threads here. Sed, my last word is your word. "Pedantic." It describes someone who engages in argument that is annoying because of its overemphasis on language and subtle argument. It is sorta the opposite end of the spectrum from trite, which is the communication of ideas that are obvious, oversimplifies, bereft of real substance. I am embarrassed that you would find me pedantic and will try to write more mindfully in an effort for self-improvement. I am going to make this positive change because of your opinion - even though I do not love you with all my being. But speaking of self-improvement, I notice that your prose has been getting more and more sophisticated ever since you and I started communicating. I am sorry that you do not want to further pursue this growth opportunity, but I respect your decision and whether you believe it or not, do wish you only the best in all your future endeavors.
Amherst Canada			Username hidden (1700 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Sed, I’ve gotten where I am today fighting with as much dignity as I can muster against an ex wife, kids, a partner, employees, competitors and boatloads of government hacks. You are the first to have ever accused me of passive aggressiveness. I want to compliment you for the careful soul searching that led you to admit in your post that you really do believe you are smarter than others. Perhaps it provides insight into all your hostility towards V, i.e., you really do not object to people thinking they are intellectually superior to others; rather you just want it to be clear that you are the one of intellectual superiority. I also commend you on your grudging admission that you do care about people’s opinion of you - at least if they are in the category of “ones you love with all your being.” That was not so hard now, was it? Did you know that one great Jew of the past built an entire philosophy around the notion that to love God with all Thy Heart, Soul and Might actually means loving your neighbor the same way? Oh, I forgot, Jesus was Sephardic, not Ashkenazi. Sed, it is touching to hear that your wonderful man accepts you for exactly for who you are; but is that really enough? I have a pet dog who apparently feels the same way about me. However, the Ashkenazi tradition in which I was raised calls for something a lot more demanding from all our meaningful life relationships. Change and growth are really not such a bad thing, but some people are so full of pride and wrapped up in their fragile self-image that they react to such a suggestion defensively - proclaiming their happiness with things exactly as they are, replete with boasts about their many family, friends and wonderful life. I am not saying that this is the case with you, since I really do not how you see yourself when you are looking into your soul instead of the mirror. But as is the case with my limericks that were really intended to have broad application, if the shoe fits, wear it.
Amherst Canada			Username hidden (1700 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Sed, I have nothing at all against anyone here, certainly not you. We have very different views on a few topical matters and I am mentally challenged by many of your posts. To reciprocate, I throw out some thoughts hopefully to challenge you back. Obviously I am particularly uneasy with your view about not giving a shit what others think. Everyone on here agrees that we should not be false to ourselves worrying about how we appear to others. Saying that over and over does nothing to advance the dialogue. Yeah, I will admit it, I hope to get you to see and say one day that there are plenty of circumstances under which what other people think IS important. (Though I fully agree with you that their opinions about others' sexual proclivities is not one of them.) Sed, you are feisty and direct and I genuinely admire that. You are also extremely strident in conveying all your opinions. I do not admire that. I think that the world is a better place when people try to be open minded, balanced and moderate in their messages. Otherwise, the casual outsider really can't see much difference between a zealous Palestinian terrorist and a zealous Zionist settler, even though you and I agree the differences are vast. I was gonna say I am sorry if any of my posts seem mean or unkind, however I cannot muster up the face to do so since you have so proudly proclaimed your thick skin and disregard for what others think about you. I'll keep trying to change your thinking on the latter subject, though, because I think you are worth it.
Amherst Canada			Username hidden (1700 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I had "JUST SEX" last night ! A threesome. There was me, then there was my right and left hand. problem is, I'm starting to have feelings or my left hand and the right hand is getting jealous. Now it's not "Just Sex" any more ;)
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (2058 post)

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