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we love the club we go to because we can always be watched and we have been told we put on a hellova good show..

Whether we find friends to play with or not when we go to the club we know theres going to be sex involved with each other.. whether we find friends to join doesn't matter one way or the other... we love swinging and would love to ALWAYS play with others, but if you go with the "no expectations other than your partner" theres no disappointments...

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Don't be scared. The only time I had the oppurtunity at a club, we closed the door. I wish we would have left it open, I would have liked to have people watch. Oh well, lessons learned.

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We agree with angel :)

For us it's about exciting and fun sex. Friendship is a nice bonus for us and we like to meet at clubs. At clubs, what you see is what you get and if you don't happen to hook up with new friends, you can always get busy with your partner in new and interesting ways.

It can be a lot of fun getting nekid in a dark corner, in a room full of people, or even right up at the bar. Plus it's usually a good conversation starter [ whoa she knows what she's doing! ] It's all about having fun ~

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1."Join today, get laid tonight" isnt going to happen.

2. Have a thick skin and dont let things get to you.

3. As a newbie, those 100 emails you just got in your mailbox, wont mean you're booked up for the next 100 weekends. You will sort through those and find a handful that youre interested in, a smaller handful that you communicate with, then a few that seem like real prospects. Out of those most will not pan out. If you are lucky, you will get to the meeting stage with a couple of those. But you really can go through 100 emails and not have 1 that works out.

4. You will get stood up. You will get lied to.

5. Dont trust a profile. That "couple" you are talking to, has a good chance of being a single male. That "single female" you're talking to will mention at some point that shes bringing her husband or boyfriend.

6. Pictures mean nothing. Get recent ones during chat and a cam is better. We know people who have had the same pics on here for the last 9 years. 9 years and 75 pounds can change your attraction when you meet.

7. MEET CLOSE TO HOME! or somewhere YOU and YOUR PARTNER want to go already. MOST meetings dont pan out. That person you are driving 2 hours to meet after chatting for weeks and building up excitement, will have no problem not showing, "forgetting" or sending you a cancel email after youre already sitting there.

For many newbies the excitement and possibilities turn into frustration pretty quick. You join a new site and feel like rockstars when you check your email. You think, "I have my pick of hundreds of people" until you try to get them out from behind the computer.

BE HONEST YOURSELVES!!!!!!!!

If you are new, shy, just checking things out, exploring the possibility, sticking your toes in the water, just looking to chat, trade pics, cam, etc......STATE THAT.

Plenty of people will take the time to be patient with you and help you explore the lifestyle at your own pace IF YOU STATE YOUR INTENTIONS.

Dont make a profile as if you are dead set ready, serious, keys in hand...... Experienced people tend to expect things to follow a similar pattern to get to the ultimate goal of meeting and playing. If the end result is not your ultimate goal for sure, be honest.

As a couple. If we exchange emails. Chat. Pics. Cam. Get along great. Yack online for hours over many days. If everything is going well. We EXPECT the next step to be meeting. Unless during that process you give an indication that you're not interested or not ready. You will get labeled as a game player and "fake"

As much as we(I) bitch and complain on here in the forums. We DO play. We DO have successful encounters and we DO have a hell of a lot of fun.

Just be honest. Be who you say you are. And you WILL get out of this site exactly what you are looking for.

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We always say we are going to have sex with each other any time we go out..whether another joins or not is irrelevant but is a bonus!!!

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Hi hopes, but low expectations for 1st meetings; If it's a no go, back out politely and never burn your bridges! You never know --- last year's duds might have dramatically changed their game plan...

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Treat everything as a Meet and Greet, just have fun. Rem to laugh, answer all E mails, and if is never wrong to say No thanks not interested. Just be nice about it.

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Whenever meeting a new couple always arrange to meet them at a place that the two of you enjoy. That way if they don't show up you still have a good time.

Besides being good specific advice, it also applies to the experience a whole.

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have fun and do not take it seriously. the minute you start taking it too seriously the fun stops and it becomes an unpaid job.

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my advice for "newbies" COMMUNICATION, TRUTH, HONESTY, and don't take anything personally....

And above all KNOW your partners limits, wants and desires...(file under communication)

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