Things you would tell new people entering the lifestyle : Swingers Discussion 1958991041

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User Details are only visible to members.	Us_plus, the ref is a great idea. There could be penalties and freethrows and timeout in the penalty box and all kinds of good stuff!
Memphis TN			Username hidden (796 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	yourluvrman. That is great advice. We like!
Beaverton OR			Username hidden (61 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Ha, too right Us_plus -- that's the other side of the coin, LOL! Some are ridiculous! Kat
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User Details are only visible to members.	I think it could be useful for couples with rules upon rules to have a contract and referee in the room! lol
Beaverton OR			Username hidden (61 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Great thread, KD :) Luvr...I can really relate to #3, and I really like your #5. Excellent ideas! Kat
Morgantown PA			Username hidden (2965 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	1. Remember, its about having fun. 2. If the lady ain't happy, nobody will be. In my experience, the women run the lifestyle. 3. Prepare to evolve. Experiences will foster growth both in social and sexual interactions and comfort. Yesterday's rule may not apply to todays rule 4. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate. Especially before play and after play. A standard 'debrief' should be part of the process after play. 5. Respect various points of view. Don't judge. Embrace diversity.
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User Details are only visible to members.	I believe the best advice I could give is never forget it's supposed to be fun. Hey, a little discomfort or edginess can add to the adventure; but if you're not having fun, why bother?
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User Details are only visible to members.	Mrs New Swinging as a couple HAS to be a COUPLE activity. You have to be on the same page. You have to both want to do it. Doing something to just please your man will do nothing but make you resent him. Especially if you are uncomfortable viewing something. Be careful of too many rules, especially if you are meeting another couple without the same rules. Once you get in bed, things just take on a course of their own. Especially with experienced couples. Once you start throwing in "You can touch this but not that, you can kiss here but not there, she cant touch him, but he can touch her, and them two cant touch" somewhere during the time someone is going to cross those lines, completely innocently but it will happen. We avoid couples with those types of rules because it makes us feel that they are not totally comfortable and have some jealousy issues and we dont like to have to keep notes and be careful during our activities. Preferences, and things youre not quite into is one thing. Heavy rules is another. We;re a both bi couple. We play with straight couples. The only thing I have to remember is not to touch him. Easy. But we have gone to dinner with couples before where they start rattling off.....Its ok for your wife to go down on my wife, but she doesnt reciprocate. You can touch her but no kissing. Sex is ok but shes not allowed to go down on you. You can finger her but no oral "thats between us" and she doesnt really want to touch another guys penis. And you can have sex with her but she has to be going down on me at the same time. Oh. And with your wife, anything goes. THATs just a little warning flag that says....."Mhmm, this may not go well"
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User Details are only visible to members.	Hey SheANDHe69, welcome aboard neighbors!
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User Details are only visible to members.	Mrs, Totalbabe is totally correct! Communication is everything and if you do it for him, it's more than likely just a matter of time before you start to resent it and him. I can't count the number of couples we've met that tried swinging as a way to save their relationship or one of them are in it just to make the other one happy. Is this something you want to try? What would seeing him with another woman mean to you? Would you be wondering if he loved her? I'm a little late to this discussion but I hope all is well. ~C
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