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I am picky and when I want to have hot steamy fun sex I want it to be with someone I am attracted to that I cant wait to see undress or be undressed by, touch that skin ,,or run my hand thru their hair, something that I am excited and anxious to have fun with... not someone that makes me think well it shouldnt take him too long.. or someone that there is no spark with. I can sit at a table, dance, joke, have a grand time but if you dont really light my fire, then I would rather pass instead of having to lower what I find hot sexy and want to fuck like a mad woman.

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So what happens when your partner has such high standards that she rules just about everyone out?"

Ohhh, I can relate. I am sexually attracted to very few. I see it like shoes. You either like them or you don't. And I don't like many. What happens? Well, it can definately mean that she does not play as often as she would if she lowered her sexual standards. It all sits on what you are looking for. Some want to fuck. They see swinging as you are here to fuck, not necessarily look for attraction. So for them, numbers are the important thing. I am not saying this is bad, it is what it is. And then for others, they do want to fuck...but they want to fuck those with whom they have sexual and physical attraction. For these swingers, numbers are behind the experience. And they would rather go home without fucking strange vs. fucking strange that did not have attraction. Neither is wrong...just different. Its what you are looking for.

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I am just glad to know I am not the only one.

And I just thought I was a snobby bitch. Go figure!

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I am a picky biotch, and I will never lower my standards. Why? Because it is my body and if I don't want to sleep with someone then I will speak up and let my husband know!

Lucky me I get a lot of support from him. Sometimes he has to laugh at my pickiness although he would never pressure me!

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I am by my own admission one of the pickiest women on earth. And it doesn't only have to do with looks. Luckily for me my spouse is ok with that and doesn't try to change me.

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"How or did you get your partner to lower her or his standards a bit? No I'm not talking anything major, just down to average"

Is that you Spanky?

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Have her give me a call.

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I'm in a great relationship with an assume woman. She is very kinky and pretty open minded. She and I have enjoy several MFM. The issue that we have recently started talking about is her standards for judging kissability or fuckability.

Most of us can agree that a large part of swinging is about attraction/fantasy and fun(sex). A lot of what makes this fun is having that attraction... that ego boast when someone you find attractive is interested in you... At least that's how I think...

Ok... So what happens when your partner has such high standards that she rules just about everyone out? She is looking for attraction in both sides of the couple since she's bi. She is looking for something special about them (heck if I have figured it out yet), but she seems to gravitate toward couples that are edgy or GQ models or the 20year olds or some quality that I have yet to understand, but don't match to those listed already. So have any other couples gone thru something like this? How or did you get your partner to lower her or his standards a bit? No I'm not talking anything major, just down to average or above for what you expect in the 25-40 age bracket. Perhaps not "HOT" but "cute"..? Or did you eventually find the "HOT" that you both were interested in? For the most part the ones she has shown me haven't been interested in us or the schedules have been two hectic to meet. So I pose this question to the group in hopes of finding some solution to get her to be open to more possibilities than just the couples that she thinks of as "HOT".

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