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TOPIC: Should I tell a couple that I know them
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I agree Scandle, using 'I' is very important, here and through out life. It's much more effective.
OP, hope you tell us what you decided and how it went... |
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KD, that's where giving only "I" statements can keep someone from gossiping. Saying "I" had difficulties with Mr. X in a previous encounter and "I" am very uncomfortable around him isn't gossip. If Tina is asked for more details, she could still continue the "I" statements, with something like "I found him to be rude and aggressive." Continuing with "I have really enjoyed your parties in the past and hope I'll be able to attend them in the future" lets the hostess know how you feel about her.
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I agree with Scandle and Rdy
and then.... I agree with Carrie too... What if they know this person well, and think you are bad talking them.... maybe better for you to say nothing. but, not knowing what has made you so scared of him.... i wonder if others should be told. What about asking the host if they know this couple well first? ...and maybe take it from there? oh, i dont know.... lol. personally, i just wouldnt go anywhere if there was someone who scared me or my husband mite freak out with. A house is tooooo small for that especially. |
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Personally, I wouldn't tell them why you are cancelling. A lot of times warnings end up coming across as gossiping. It ends up making you look bad.
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Tina, I think if you explain to your host/hostess that you sincerely regret having to cancel but need to because you have had bad experiences with the one person, your simple honesty will both indicate your feelings of wishing you could attend and act as a warning that they may need to keep a closer eye on the guy during the party. It could be he only acts that way around you, but if he is that way with others, then the host/hostess will want to know so they can keep the other guests safe.
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Scandle and Rdy- We will more than likely take your advice, just wonder how honest we should be with the host/hostess?
I think we do need to make a get away to PA for a group get together.. Tina |
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Thanks for all your advice I think I am not going to tell them. I think you all have it right. Once again thanks for the very good advice. Tom
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Lou, that situation sucks. I would think if you will be consumed with fear the entire time, then nothing will happen - even the fun stuff you want to have happen. It is possible the other couple won't show up and you could take a chance that you won't see them there, but it will still have an affect on your mood. To avoid a truly ruined evening, I'd say it would be best to stay away from that party and find fun elsewhere. Good luck.
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Please share your advice.
My playmate and I are suppose to attend a house party(we have been here several times) there is a list of those who are confirmed for the party, a recent couple was added that I have an extreme fear of the male half. Do we go and hope nothing happens, do I write the host/hostess and explain for my own safety we will not be attending. I hate not being able to enjoy things because of rude aggressive people and I do not want my partner get into a fight with this guy. Tina |
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Any kind of sexual-related things with someone you work with is almost always a very, very bad idea. There are too many playmates out there you don't work with, to risk [fill in the blank with any number of potential problems].
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