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TOPIC: Same room difficulties
Created by: WifeIsN2girls2
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Had the same issue this weekend beat myself up over it for a while then read this post and now have a lot of ideas on things to try . I dident stop pleasuring her just because I couldent preform. Pretty shure I was distracted by my lady soo hot hearing her moan in pleasure.

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We have found that majority of the couples we play with, the other guy either can't get it up or goes soft within 15 mins. I try to "help out", but usually by that time, the guy is so upset about it all, he's all done for the night.

I'm glad to read that your "issue" worked it self out. :)

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I figured this would resolve itself.

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After about 3 months, and a few more encounters, I'm happy to say this is an issue that went away on it's own. I haven't had any trouble since that first time. I guess it was just a bit of sensory overload, and perhaps even a little 'stage fright'. I'd like to think it's completely natural, and that it's not really very difficult to overcome with a few encounters.

I will say that I still enjoy the occasional separate room play, because I feel like it's a little more intimate.

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Glad to see that I'm (hubby) not the only one with "distraction" problems.

On a recent "first date", Mrs. T wisely suggested (after the other couple stated that they thought separate rooms were a good idea for the first playtime) that we go along, and we did. We both had a hot time, and I'm glad we did. I'll probably always be mesmerized watching her, but not to the point of not pleasing the lady I'm with.

Thanks for bringing this up.

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Maybe you aren't a same room person? This is the reason why we enjoy separate so much more. It is easier, and less embarasing, to deal with an "issue" should it arrise...er...not...

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WifeIs; We've seen the same sort of issues. I suspect that the root cause for you is likely the same as for me; distraction. If we can't focus, we can't function. If we're not "in the moment" and our attention is all over the place, where's the focus? That's why we prefer different rooms, but will play same-room if it's important to our partners.

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We are a cpl that vastly prefers separate rooms. In my experience, men simply fuck differently when their wife is present. Its why i love single men. I want 100 percent.

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My guy had this problem at our last party and it was with me! I was bummed! Sometimes it is just not in the air! And sometimes it could be a number of problems from you are not attracted to the person you are banging to you can feel the other person is just not that into you. And it could be drinking, performance anxiety, you just were not that arosed yet. My question for you is did the girl you were with perform oral? I've never had a problem with using that before???? Maybe you just wanted to just watch your wife that night. Sometimes I just want to see my guy with another gal and don't want to play. If it happens again then I would be worried.

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We totally understand this situation. On our second play date as a couple, I experienced the same problem, mainly due to the stimulation of seeing Mrs. T with the other lady's hubby. It was more of a turnon than I would have imagined (and still is), but to the point of being distracting.

We've since progressed to separate rooms when all agree and are comfortable, and that alleviates the problem; we can then come back and play in the same room, then split up again if we want, etc., etc. House parties are nice for this too, as one couple can retire to a private room.

I also watch the booze intake. That can have more of an effect than one might think, particularly if there are any "first date nerves".

Rest assured that you aren't alone! Relax and have fun; good luck!

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