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TOPIC: Same room difficulties
Created by: WifeIsN2girls2
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It's a little embarrasing, but here goes.

We recently progressed to full swap. Previously, we limited ourselves to girl play and soft swap only. Recently, we've been haning out with one couple that we like alot and we progressed from girl play, to soft swap, to moderate swap, and finally to full swap, all on different occasions. At each stop along the way, it was no problems, and everyone had a great time. However, at full swap I encountered an... uh... embarrassing issue, and I wanted to get other swinger's perspectives.

I have discovered that I seem to have what I can only describe as a 'shyness' about fucking another guys wife in front of him. I just can't keep it up.

At first I thought it might be an issue with watching him fuck my wife. So, I took a break from the action, and watched. Nope, I was actually turned on by watching her get off with him.

We tried 3 different times on the same bed, and all three times, I started strong, but faltered after a few minutes with the other husband and my wife in the same bed.

For the 4th try, I suggested we tried different rooms, to see if maybe I was just too drunk. That seemed to do the trick as about 25 minutes later everyone was satisfied. That's a pretty standard amount of time for me.

I have never had an issue with becoming enthusiastic, or maintaining enthusiasm. Occasionally, if I've had way too much to drink, I cannot reach the pennicle, but enthusiasm is never an issue.

I know everyone is different, but it seems like most full swap couples avoid separate room play, so I am concerned this would be an obstacle if we ever got to this point with another couple.

Is this 'shyness' a natural part of the progression? Is is something someone can grow out of? Anything anyone can think of that I should try?

Your feedback is welcome.

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My fiance' and I don't full swap, just soft. The first time we were ever with a couple was our first time ever. I'm 54, and she's 48. I figured since it was the first time I would be rock hard. Wrong! We were with a couple that was 39 & 34. It took me a while, but eventually the general saluted. The younger guy never could get hard and eventually sat out. Myself and the ladies finished up. We had consumed some alcohol, which I'm sure didn't help.

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