Question for the ladies about impotence: Swingers Discussion 1937891041

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User Details are only visible to members.	You did right saying it wasnt her. But to continue in this lifestyle the honest truth is youre going to have to fix that problem. A man without an erection is like a car with a flat tire. 99% good, but that 1% makes the rest useless. We have had guys with performance issues in the past. Whether it was a little too much to drink, or just anxiety. It made it very awkward and unpleasant for us as a couple and whether it was our fault or his fault, it stuck in our mind as a bad experience and honestly we wouldnt "give it another try" for the simple fact of not wanting to take a chance of it happening again. There will always be the though "was it him or was it us" In a relationship when love and feelings are involved. Thats a different story. Thats when you can as a couple work together to overcome or solve the problem. With swinging, youre whole purpose is to bring a hard dick and use it. Kinda hard to overcome that
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You did the correct thing, telling the lady it wasn't her, and continuing to find other ways to make her happy. However... If you have consistent erection problems it's not fair to engage with other couples without telling them about it so they can make an informed choice to play with you. Women in the Lifestyle are experienced and we know it happens to every guy on occasion. It may be disappointing but isn't a huge big deal. A woman who makes it a big deal is being an asshole. But it is NOT all right to continue on hooking up with couples if you know you can't perform or probably can't perform. It's not fair to them and it isn't good for your ego, either. Consult a doctor and find a fix, or be prepared to be honest with potential partners.
Springfield VA			Username hidden (262 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Good for you, Enigma! I suspect your actions, along with your reassuring her that the problem wasn't with her, meant a lot to this gorgeous woman.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (6968 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Scandle: I kept playing. When we first started with the lifestyle, I had a problem and left the room. Very childish, but could not handle things. This time we continued to play, and then layed together and talked and rubbed each other.
Mount Laurel NJ			Username hidden (33 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Enigma, did you stop all play when you realized your erection wasn't going to happen that time with that lady, or did you continue to pleasure her in the best way you know how? We had a male drop out of play when he came too soon, making his wife (and the rest of us) feel a little awkward as he sat wearing shorts, on a chair with his head down while the rest of us kept going for a little while. I was thinking, Damn! I'm not done here, mister! He could have done any number of things with his fingers and mouth that I would have adored. If we ever see them again, I'll give him another chance, but will be more vocal about my needs if there's any problem with his erection.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (6968 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thank you everyone. Thanks for being nice. I was taking Cialis and a herb called yohimbe. Yohimbe usually works great. I am scheduled to see DOC. I want penile injections. Supposed to work great. I can't take the embarrassment anymore.
Mount Laurel NJ			Username hidden (33 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Let it go. The more you obsess about it the more likely it is to happen again because you will create a self fulfilling prophecy. It's totally normal for every guy to have this happen on occasion, especially when meds are a factor. I would absolutely give a guy a second shot and might even take it as a challenge :) Good luck!
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User Details are only visible to members.	what has happened to you is perfectly normal and nothing at all to be embarassed or ashamed about. It happens. Since this is a medical issue I would suggest you talk with your physician. He/she may put you on something such as Levitra/Viagra...but that depends on your health and ability to take these meds. Talk with your physician about it. You did the right thing. You assured her that you find her to be sexy, beautiful...and that it was not her. As a woman who has dealt with this issue...that is greatly appreciated, you are a gentleman for doing that. I would not bring it up again. I would see my dr. before playing again mind you, because i think that if this were to happen again it would hit your confidence. And that makes things worse. But nah, I would not bring it up :0)
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23645 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I have on again/off again issues. Comes from a head injury and serious meds. The is past NYE I was with an amazing woman. Next to my wife, I think she is the sexiest woman I know. I lost my erection. I assured her it wasn't her. And there have been some friendly messages and txt. But I feel horrible. Do I just let it go and not create drama? Would you be willing to give a guy a second chance? By the way, when I am hard, woman all say I am thick. Please be nice.
Mount Laurel NJ			Username hidden (33 post)

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