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Question for couples: is it wrong of the other to pursue swinging even if his or her partner is unaware : Swingers Discussion 1997961051
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TOPIC: Question for couples: is it wrong of the other to pursue swinging even if his or her partner is unaware
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It isn't "swinging" if both parties don't agree, it is cheating . No Ifs, Ands Or Buts in my book. Hypothetically speaking when these 2 got married ,they promised to love, honor and cherish their partner, most would also include being faithful as an expectation. This isn't a case where he wants to take up golf and golf bores her and can not be compared to any other recreational sport. In my opinion he has a choice, to accept that swinging isn't something she is interested and get over it or find another partner. His wife deserves better than a cheating husband who sneaks off to check a swingers site for interest, arranges trysts that will put her sexual health in jeopardy and puts more energy into pursuing his sexual fantasies than the relationship with his wife. Does he deserve more than a wife unwilling to support his fantasy ? Sure he does if he desires it more than he desires being married to his wife. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too and in my opinion that makes him a very selfish not nice man. Mrs Sav

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I like the incorrigible label! ;-)

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sigh... you're incorrigible, AFT! And I like that! ;^D

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Agree that it is "cheating" but also see the point of the other spouse not being able to enjoy something they really like doing but can't! Very grateful we are not in that position. Thank you for all your comments it is an interesting topic.

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Depends. Is it the wife that wants to swing on her own and is she hot?

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I completely agree with Carrie. To paraphrase and answer the OP, yes, "it is wrong of the other to pursue swinging" WHEN "his or her partner is unaware." It is cheating, plain and simple, and devastating to the relationship.

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Cheating is about deceit. They are deceiving their spouse, so yes it is cheating. IMO, it is wrong and not something I want to be apart of.

Carrie

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if you are a couple and and you have talked about swinging and one of you does not want to is it wrong of the other to pursue swinging even if his or her partner is unaware? I ask this because we met a single who was married and they said their spouse found swinging repulsive (after seeing a 60 minutes segment on it) they said to us is it fair for them not to be in this lifestyle just because the spouse does not like it? It made us think? We understand the issue of "cheating" but is it? why should someone not be able to enjoy something because of the other persons view on the matter? We know this we not be popular with some people but this is what forums are for to get a reaction or insight.

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TOPIC: Question for couples: is it wrong of the other to pursue swinging even if his or her partner is unaware