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User Details are only visible to members.	You may be better off as friends and not playmates. Many guys try to fool themselves into believing that the LS is for them, when it clearly is not. If you keep trying to make something work that just doesn't work, you're just going to be miserable. You deserve better than that from the LS. Our suggestion, do an occasional movie with them if you want the friendship, and find yourself a couple that satisfies you BOTH. You are NOT going to solve his problem any more than you are the cause of it.
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We're still very new to this and. I don't see the question being asked...are they new to the lifestyle? I had similar issues the first few times we "played" but it seems to have gotten better, maybe it's that I'm more relaxed with each new scenario. Personally, I'm a foreplay kinda guy, I like to touch and be touched. Our first full swap, I couldn't stay hard at first and the Mrs said it could have been overstimulation, seeing her with someone new and/or the pressure to perform. I don't know, but somewhere in the middle, it was like I just relaxed and everything went beyond my wildest dreams. The other woman was very comforting and gave me the attention I needed and I reciprocated when things finally got going. OP - hope that helps. There are some good ideas on here and I can't see someone getting upset with you for talking about it, they just may be embarrassed about it. D
Jackson MS			Username hidden (54 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It's been our experience that the wife of a couple who wanted "cuddling," wasn't satisfied with her hubby. Come to think of it, I wasn't satisfied with her hubby either....the guy came in less than 5 minutes and just didn't know how to take his time! I have no desire to cuddle with a play partner - that's what I do with my hubby. We're not in the business of helping couples with issues. Kat
Morgantown PA			Username hidden (2965 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I am not your counselor, your physician...or your stand in to keep you occupied while your wife gets hers exactly! ~joan
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (1485 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I am not here to cuddle, if I want to cuddle its going to be with my friend after I have been fucked stupid. Cuddling has NEVER given me an orgasm. Call me insensitive, but only call me if you can fuck.
Spring TX			Username hidden (1865 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	just cuddle with him while his wife is haveing a great time with my hubby? ummm yea that doesnt work for me. im not in this to cuddle, i can do that at home with my hubby ~joan" Okay, I'm with Joan on this one. I don't know, its a very sensitive issue and a hard call. I no longer bring it up. I brought it up with one male playmate and he got offended and said "I've never had that happen before...must have been who I was with." I cried for a week after that. I DO feel bad for men, as I have stated before. However, I am not your counselor, your physician...or your stand in to keep you occupied while your wife gets hers. And I can cuddle with Jay or my cat LOL.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23750 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thanks for all the responses and pros and cons of the different ideas. The cuddling thing is out for sure as not what we are looking for. We have a good relationship with them we think but have only known them not very long. If either one of us confronts them alone guess you never know how they will react. Know we are going to have to address this no matter what the out come. We have a few weeks before we see them again so still looking for ideas. One thought we had was the next time to soft swap and see how things go between them. Just an idea.
Portsmouth RI			Username hidden (15 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	you might consider just cuddling while your hubby and his wife enjoy themselves. just cuddle with him while his wife is haveing a great time with my hubby? ummm yea that doesnt work for me. im not in this to cuddle, i can do that at home with my hubby ~joan
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (1485 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	a nubber? lol
Pottstown PA			Username hidden (1375 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	There are likely only two root causes; clinical and situational. If it's a clinical issue, health related, then he likely has the same problem with his wife/SO. This is something that he/they should address with their healthcare provider. If it's situational, then you might consider just cuddling while your hubby and his wife enjoy themselves. We've been swinging for many years and have found that a nice slow cuddle, with or without talking, can often relieve a lot of tension even without sex. Further, you might be surprised at what comes up in mid-cuddle. lol Lastly, how would you feel about continuing to see this couple if things don't improve? Are they good enough friends, and understanding enough, that you'd enjoy each others company sans playtime? Would the absence of sex in the relationship be a death blow?
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (652 post)

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