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TOPIC: Partners Proformance Issues
Created by: allnew2us23
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We have been seeing this couple for about 6 months. They are a great couple socially, We always enjoy their company and always have alot of fun and laughs. Now the problem. My husband and his wife always have a great time but he always seems to have a problem keeping it functional and leaving me unfufilled. My hubby always takes care of me when we get home but the point is its just not working for me. I'm looking for a non confrontational way to address this, as short of not seeing them any more. Sure I'm not the only one to have had this problem and would love to hear how others have dealt with this.

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Drug him with a viagra, lol...we actually knew a couple, from a long while back, where she used to carry around an "erection issue" bag...it was full of viagra, cialis, levitra...revolutionary idea that I should've caught onto years ago...some guys seem to have issues while others don't...either way, I'm not working all night to correct it!

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Good post. My wife and I are "newbies" as well, and while I had some limited experience as a single guy with two couples, I'm certainly no veteran. Luckily, our first play date was with a really great couple who are in pretty much the same position. We've had two encounters with them, and both the other guy and I had performance issues (he the first date, me the second). While I was pretty frustrated with myself (considering that my wife was having the time of her life:)), everyone was very understanding and we're moving forward.

I think you have to decide whether this issue is an occasional one or ongoing--and that can only be determined with the passing of time. Personally, I chalk it up to inner "jitters", just like when a couple meet in the vanilla world. In our case, we're very fortunate in that the guy and I are on the same page, and our wives are really cool with everything. As the comfort level increases, I'm sure that any "performance issues" will be pretty infrequent. My advice is to be patient. My wife and I aren't looking for a lot of play partners, just one or two couples with whom to build a lasting friendship and sexual relationship. I think it's worth investing time and maintaining a sense of understanding. Best of luck to you!

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First: Lost, I cannot believe a dude would say something like that to you.... both of us perved your profile and you are smoking hot......."

Thank you!!! You are very sweet.

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First: Lost, I cannot believe a dude would say something like that to you.... both of us perved your profile and you are smoking hot.......

2nd: I (the male half) had this issue last week end..... could have been 1 of a thousand things from her perfume to 1st time performance anxiety because it really has never happened to me before... the soldier has never failed to stand at attention. got no idea what caused it. Apparently I was fine tonight when we were alone in a semi secluded public place.... to the OP .... try changing your perfume or not using it.... certain scents affect performance and perfume masks pheromones and those are important to performance..... no pheromones, no attraction.

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Excellent!

See, it doesn't hurt to ask nicely.

(Do you think he is on to my tactic that if he emails me, I can see the rest of his pics?)

Shhhhhh

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Nic, we're about 3 hours away, comfortable enough drive. That weekend looks to be perfect actually. I'll check out more in the other thread.

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No one can say he isn't dedicated to the cause.

And I don't blame him.

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Hope you are prepared to host a BIG party! lol

Poland OH
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Nic ain't nothing but a hound dawg. lol

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RE: OSU, this too shall pass.

As for the traveling spa show, maybe have to put one on a trailer and tour the country meeting sls forumers! lol

So how far are you two from NOLA? We are having an informal M&G the end of Sept. Check out the thread in open forums (Fellatio in the Fall).

Shoot me an email for details.

;-D

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TOPIC: Partners Proformance Issues