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Created by: JandSjustwannahavefun Original Starting post for this thread:
Hi all! This is Sheri...we are new to SLS and still feel fairly new to the lifestyle though we have been swinging off/on as the opportunities have arisen throughout the 17 years of being US. John and I are frustrated by the people we are meeting on here who say one thing while talking on here and even while we are face to face. A good example is a couple we recently began playing with, I flat out asked her if she enjoyed having her ass played with, kissed, licked, squeezed...not fucked, okay? She answered affirmative every time I asked. So we all get naked and are in bed going at it and John while eating her pussy goes to kiss and lick her ass...and gets the big EEEwwww!!! Don't do that! Well that was it for him, he could not get all fired up after being told that by her. And during the afterwards discussion we always have, he felt as if I had perhaps not lied to him - but shaded the possibilities of this couple being more towards his liking than what I KNEW them to be - which was NOT the case. John knows that he may not always like what I have to say about a person/couple/situation but it is always absolutely exactly the way i see/think/feel about it. And since I am the online communicator/activities director - he has to rely upon my impressions of people during the initial online meet/greet/chat. And I am always very direct & honest with people I talk to on here about who we are, what we like, our boundaries, etc etc.....I guess I just need advice on weeding out the ones who talk a big game rather actually playing big once they get to the playground! I would never waste anyone else's time by pretending to be something we are not...why do other people do the game-playing? Especially when they actually come over to play! I don't mind hot conversation just as conversation but if they actually come visit the playground - why would anyone enjoy not bringing what they had offered to begin with? Sorry for being so long-winded! Just am very frustrated and trying figure out what I am doing wrong! Thnx in advance to anyone who takes the time to offer their experience & insights into this situation!

Created by: JandSjustwannahavefun
Original Starting post for this thread:

Hi all! This is Sheri...we are new to SLS and still feel fairly new to the lifestyle though we have been swinging off/on as the opportunities have arisen throughout the 17 years of being US. 
John and I are frustrated by the people we are meeting on here who say one thing while talking on here and even while we are face to face. A good example is a couple we recently began playing with, I flat out asked her if she enjoyed having her ass played with, kissed, licked, squeezed...not fucked, okay? She answered affirmative every time I asked. So we all get naked and are in bed going at it and John while eating her pussy goes to kiss and lick her ass...and gets the big EEEwwww!!! Don't do that! Well that was it for him, he could not get all fired up after being told that by her. And during the afterwards discussion we always have, he felt as if I had perhaps not lied to him - but shaded the possibilities of this couple being more towards his liking than what I KNEW them to be - which was NOT the case.  John knows that he may not always like what I have to say about a person/couple/situation but it is always absolutely exactly the way i see/think/feel about it. And since I am the online communicator/activities director - he has to rely upon my impressions of people during the initial online meet/greet/chat. 
And I am always very direct & honest with people I talk to on here about who we are, what we like, our boundaries, etc etc.....I guess I just need advice on weeding out the ones who talk a big game rather actually playing big once they get to the playground! I would never waste anyone else's time by pretending to be something we are not...why do other people do the game-playing? Especially when they actually come over to play! I don't mind hot conversation just as conversation but if they actually come visit the playground - why would anyone enjoy not bringing what they had offered to begin with? 
Sorry for being so long-winded! Just am very frustrated and trying figure out what I am doing wrong! 
Thnx in advance to anyone who takes the time to offer their experience & insights into this situation!

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User Details are only visible to members.	I usually tell people that I have few boundaries and would like to know what boundaries they have as I don't want to surprise them or shock them by doing something they are not comfortable with. I love to lick a woman all over, but I have encountered some women who don't like to have their toes nibbled on or their asses licked. And it is good to know that sort of stuff up front. Women are adorable, but some of them have boundaries and its good to know up front.
Logan WV			Username hidden (1022 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I think it also helps to ask as you play.... You've established online that she enjoys ass play, but..... she didn't say she always likes ass play, she didn't say she expects her ass to be played with every time, she maybe should have qualified her answer??? Especially in the area of my ass.... I always appreciate a man--or lady--who starts slowly and asks if it feels good. Tread lightly and move slowly. For me, it depends on the day. Sometimes I want it; sometimes I want you to stay the heck away from there.... It's hard to have that detailed a conversation in an online chat. So it's good to ask as you progress. Just my 2 cents.... Good luck--and have fun!!! Oh....and definitely good advice for both of you to be involved in the communication ahead of time!
Shippensburg PA			Username hidden (1794 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thanks so much for the advice! We talked for hours last night about all things swinging and have decided about this situation that each of us is responsible for speaking with a prospective couple(not just me anymore) and each must be actively involved in the getting-to-know/vetting/selection process. Then there will be no misunderstanding between he & I as to why we like/dislike a couple and can both make an informed decision based on first-hand knowledge! xoxox Sheri
Wilmington OH			Username hidden (93 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Maybe she had to fart and was just being polite holding it...lol My guess would be when you asked on line if she liked ass play SHE wasn't who you where talking to. Thus the lie and liar are exposed. I find woman are pretty honest about liking ass slapping or anything ass for that matter. They either are or aren't. That would kill the moment if your expecting fetish play already semi agreed upon and the ewwwww gross don't. I don't do the salad tossing thing my self. But I'm a ass slapper for sure and that would have been the end for me. Advice....just use it as a learning experience and move on. Maybe some small talk recapping fetishes before entering the playground.
Atlanta GA			Username hidden (2136 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Hi all! This is Sheri...we are new to SLS and still feel fairly new to the lifestyle though we have been swinging off/on as the opportunities have arisen throughout the 17 years of being US. John and I are frustrated by the people we are meeting on here who say one thing while talking on here and even while we are face to face. A good example is a couple we recently began playing with, I flat out asked her if she enjoyed having her ass played with, kissed, licked, squeezed...not fucked, okay? She answered affirmative every time I asked. So we all get naked and are in bed going at it and John while eating her pussy goes to kiss and lick her ass...and gets the big EEEwwww!!! Don't do that! Well that was it for him, he could not get all fired up after being told that by her. And during the afterwards discussion we always have, he felt as if I had perhaps not lied to him - but shaded the possibilities of this couple being more towards his liking than what I KNEW them to be - which was NOT the case. John knows that he may not always like what I have to say about a person/couple/situation but it is always absolutely exactly the way i see/think/feel about it. And since I am the online communicator/activities director - he has to rely upon my impressions of people during the initial online meet/greet/chat. And I am always very direct & honest with people I talk to on here about who we are, what we like, our boundaries, etc etc.....I guess I just need advice on weeding out the ones who talk a big game rather actually playing big once they get to the playground! I would never waste anyone else's time by pretending to be something we are not...why do other people do the game-playing? Especially when they actually come over to play! I don't mind hot conversation just as conversation but if they actually come visit the playground - why would anyone enjoy not bringing what they had offered to begin with? Sorry for being so long-winded! Just am very frustrated and trying figure out what I am doing wrong! Thnx in advance to anyone who takes the time to offer their experience & insights into this situation!
Wilmington OH			Username hidden (93 post)

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