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If you drink before playing, try cutting the amount you would normally consume in half. Alcohol causes dehydration and that never helps with getting it hard. Far too many times, I'll be hard and ready to go with the female half of a couple and I'll look over at my wife and she's trying to resurrect the drunken dead. Always makes the guy upset and makes it awkward for the rest of us.

Also, it could be nerves as stated before. Think of it this way - could you masturbate in front of someone who is not your wife? It sounds corny, but that's the essence of being comfortable enough with yourself and others.

Another thing to try would be soft swap only. Have sex with your own partners in the same room and watch the other couple while being watched. This will acclimate you to "performing for an audience".

The condom shouldn't have any effect on your erection. I hate the damned things too, but I'm not there to be foolish. Also, find a condom that doesn't have that "condom smell". That helps out a good bit too. To me, at least, the damned things stink lol!

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Be sure that you are PRAcTICING with condoms when things ARE going well with just you two. Get used to it so it becomes a non-issue. I have seen this happen repeatedly. Practice will improve it.

Also, don't just keep giving it the old college try. Acknowledge it and take a break. Step back. Give her a massage and enjoy watching your wife with her partner for a bit. Or ask for your wife to help out--this often resets things.

Best of luck.

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Sorry.... hubby got the original paper prescriptions from his doc, but he gets his pills from a manufacturer in India. Takes a couple weeks to get them, but they are less than a dollar a pill. Can't beat that. No problems with quality at all.

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Oh! And yes, you can go get a prescription for one (or all) of the ED medications. My hubby's doc wrote him prescriptions for all 3 so he could try each one and see which one works best for him. Here's what he found:

Cialis - It works better the next morning after taking it.

Viagra - He cuts them in half and just takes a half as a whole pill gives him a headache. Take an hour before play. Works great!

Levitra - Works best out of the 3. Taking it an hour before play and he's ready to go! And for a long time.

Hint: Don't eat a big meal before taking any of these pills. They work MUCH better on an empty/just a little food stomach.

Good luck!

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I saw you guys just joined SLS last month, so I (the Mrs) am assuming you both are fairly new to the LS? If so, what you are experiencing is totally NORMAL. I repeat... totally normal.

Your profile says you're only 31, so I highly doubt it's a physical thing, but if you've had erectile problems previously, you may want to check with your doc.

But here's our experience:

1. There's the mental aspect of it all. It can be really exciting/scary being in a new swinging situation. And there can be some performance anxiety. Don't worry. The more experience you have, the better it gets.

2. Hints - Don't have too much alcohol. Don't play too late. (Not starting to play until 1am can make it hard to get it up...unless you're used to be a night owl.) Don't hot tub right before sex. The excessive heat can makes "things" not work for a while.

3. Getting used to a condom all over again is not easy. You have to get used to it. We switched to Kimono brand Ultra Thins and hubby had a much better time. He also makes sure to put 2-3 drops of lube into the tip of the condom before he puts it on and it feel much better for him.

Main thing... don't get upset. Getting upset only makes it worse. Have fun, be safe and give yourself a break. :)

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You can't actually buy pills without a prescription, at least none that are guaranteed to have an active ingredient that works. The big three are Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis.

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Could be just nerves or it could indicate a more serious medical problem. At your age you shouldn't be having any issues, especially with a couple of attractive naked women in the room. You should have a doc check you out, elevated blood pressure could be causing your symptoms and it's best to catch and treat it early. Welcome to the fora!

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