New to the lifestyle: Swingers Discussion 34738

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Created by: JimNCindy	The original post for this thread was deleted.

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User Details are only visible to members.	Why is it so difficult to find couples that you both click with? Well, think how hard it was to find ONE PERSON you wanted to have for a life partner. Each of you had to click with just one person. Add another couple, and now TWO of you have to click with TWO people, so it's 2x2=4 times harder to find a match! I say BOTH of you have to click with the other couple and they both have to click with both of you, because generally people aren't too keen on having somebody they don't even like fucking their spouse. I know you aren't choosing life partners when selecting a couple to play with, but at the very least you are selecting people with the attractiveness and other traits that you find appealing. We try very hard to screen profiles online for compatibility before we even respond to an e-mail or send one to someone. If, after exchanging a few e-mails and information about each other we still sound good to each other, then we meet for dinner only at a restaurant on a weekday evening after work. That way there is no lost Saturday and there is no expectation that the first meeting will be anything more than a get-acquainted meeting. If we DO all click, and we seem to know that within about 5 minutes (LOL), then we make plans for a Saturday date to get together for playing. Even with all our advance effort to screen profiles,several e-mail exchanges, and picture exchanges, we STILL find that only about one out of every four or five couples we meet turns out to be a couple we want to play with. Most of the time either I click with the other woman, but Mrs. valovers doesn't click with the other guy, or vice versa. It's often easier to meet compatible people at a large party or a meet & greet, where you can observe people and get a sense of their personalities, plus you can "scope out" multiple couples in the same evening. That alone increases your chances, but it's still not easy. Prospecting for compatible swinging couples is like panning for gold - you have to sort through a lot of mud & slime to find the occasional nugget! LOL Luckily, there are LOTS of us swingers "out there," so if you don't get discouraged and give up searching, you eventually find one or two really good couples. And then through them you meet THEIR friends, and their friends are likely to be people similar to YOU. And so it goes . . .
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8158 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	One theory is that it is easier for an odd numbered group (i.e, 3, 5, or 7 people) to click than it is for an even numbered group (i.e., 4, 6, or 8). If there is one personality that doesn't click with the others in an even numbered group, some one feels left out. On the other hand, if one personality doesn't click in an odd numbered group, it is less likely that someone will feel left out because either (i) expectations were not that high at the start, or (ii) the odd numbered party has been affirmatively sought out to play with the others. I play with a lot of couples who don't like the couple swap scene because it is so difficult to find a true click.
Memphis TN			Username hidden (855 post)

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TOPIC: New to the lifestyle