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User Details are only visible to members.	Gass I don't think anyone is throwing them out...but I think it is agreed that they should take themselves out until these issues are dealt with. Seriously, he gave her the signal he said and she completely disregarded it. That is hurtful, rude and downright disrespectful to her husband. Now given, if I did that Jay would have discreetly pulled me aside and if I showed out like a little girl I would have probably been asking my lover for a ride home that night LOL. So I do not think anyone has said get out...however, do YOU want to be the couple that swings with a couple like that? We HAVE! Its uncomfortable, awkward and just plain not fun in any way. Now granted, like I said, we all make mistakes. Jay and I have had our share of okay, lets NOT do that again or that made me upset moments. But this was more than that. This was not a wife who did not realize she hurt her spouse...she did it DESPITE knowing she was going against his wishes. That is just not okay and yes, I think they should take a break until she can learn what boundaries are and he can learn how to say no, this is not happening.
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User Details are only visible to members.	shelly i thought we had talked about this.... i'm to be address as "the all knowing, all seeing omnipotent MAHA SCOTTY" Oh yes sir, you are right. I think I deserve a spanking.
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User Details are only visible to members.	PD, its true. One of the first things you must learn here, unfortunately, is be able to say no thank you or risk being used. Again, this is a large reason why singles are in demand in my opinion. In our experiences, and I can only speak for what I myself have seen, most "game players" are couples. The singles? You risk cheating ass spouses. When I say game players I refer to those like this couple...he wants some strange pussy and she goes along with it....I'm sure they have THEIR OWN share of issues. Saying no can be rough because we all want to be liked and do not like it when others are displeased with us. But this is the risk you take when you do not say no. And I'm not saying make a scene...but when the other wife was clearly not into you, when she said what she likes are black men, in my opinion you should have taken your wife by the hand to another room and said this is not happening. If she decided to show out well then you know that swinging is not something she is mature enough to do yet...or you need to entertain singles vs. couples. If you do not learn how to say no this will happen again I fear. All of us can attest to the fact that when you become swingers you don't leave your asshole card at the door lol.
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User Details are only visible to members.	shelly i thought we had talked about this.... i'm to be address as "the all knowing, all seeing omnipotent MAHA SCOTTY"
Lake Worth FL			Username hidden (7209 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My thoughts are similar to lost's. It sounds like the OP's wife has a lesson that hopefully she will learn from. As for the OP, if you or both of you are not comfortable with something, say "no". It's better in the long run than jeopardizing your relationship. I do think it is weird that the other couple's wife was content with just going along with all of it, game playing, probably.
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User Details are only visible to members.	SCOTTY D, where ya been baby? And that is the word according to Scott. LOL.
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User Details are only visible to members.	1. you're both at fault; 1a) your wife is at fault for ignoring your feelings; 1b) you're at fault for not grabbing your mangina and telling her no. in our relationship either of us has absolute veto power. 2. you admitted lying to your wife. 3. please exit the lifestyle, neither of you are mature enough to be a part of it.
Lake Worth FL			Username hidden (7209 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I originally posted a very long, angry post about how your wife needs to grow up and act like a grown woman. I am glad she feels bad honestly, she needs some time to realize that what she did is wrong. Sometimes you need to allow someone to think about things and realize how much they hurt you. Sorry..but sometimes sorry just isn't enough. She fucked up BIG, even if you are rookies...and yes, you of course should forgive her because we have all made mistakes. But let her realize how much pain she put you through. I disagree with "its okay, its okay, its okay." I agree with sitting down with someone and saying calmly I accept your apology and I am grateful you do feel remorse..but let me tell you how your actions were painful to me. That way they remember those actions. The other couple: Game players. If she wants to only fuck BBC she should be honest. Game players. They are everywhere, work on your screening process. I would step away from swinging until you can work through these issues. Good luck.
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