Need advice Relationship getting complicated: Swingers Discussion 91517

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TOPIC: Need advice Relationship getting complicated

Created by: geckowrangler	The original post for this thread was deleted.

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User Details are only visible to members.	gecko, do you know if they play with couples other than yourself? I ask this because it sounds as if perhaps they are looking for an exclusive/poly relationship. OR they may just really enjoy being around y'all.....either way its about YOU being comfortable. You need to sit and talk about how YOU like to swing. Be tactful, gentle but honest; let them know that hey, just because we are at the same place it does NOT mean that we are swapping. Now. Be prepared that you very well may lose them as friends. Some couples get all kinds of bent out of shape; but you cannot do this to cater to others. Best of luck to you, Shell
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23612 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Sounds like you have different goals and expectations... maybe they are into playing more often? Let them know you would rather play less often - and that sometimes you want to get together without playing. Best bet is to be up front with your desires. If it fits their desires it's all good - if not, they will let you know.
Pismo Beach CA			Username hidden (302 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Right On Jewel! Their always wanting to play at every opportunity is not an unusual thing with new or relatively new people. Have you tried arranging social time with them that precludes playing? Kids to the park? Shopping? That might be one possibility to slow things down a bit. That might also be an opportunity to tell that, while you both enjoy the sex, you're not comfortable with it dominating things. (I'd suggest that it might be a good thing to bring that up F/F or M/M, depending on which of them is less likely to jump to the wrong conclusion.) As Jewel said, give them some time to digest the idea that the relationship is important Too. As time and experience accumulate, most cpls mellow out and the sex becomes just one aspect of the overall LS experience. If they're as into the relationship/friendship as you are, they'll understand your need to slow things down and enjoy the social aspects too. If they aren't, then they won't, and that'll sort of resolve the issue too. The important thing is to let them know that you value & appreciate their friendship and your being neighbors even outside of the sexual context. Variety is the spice of life, but spices are best used sparingly to make good things even better! Just a few ideas off the top of my (flat) head. :-) J of JnD
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (625 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	What Jewel said.
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TOPIC: Need advice Relationship getting complicated