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Your mistake was giving them your wife's phone number. Never give out info that can be used to harm you. My advice is to tell him that he blew it with your wife, and that you won't meet with them. If he is this familiar before meeting you, just think how intrusive he will be after being with your wife?!

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I would have to say in our situation . That is a big no no the wife and i always chat together and all contact is done together and thats to me is him sneaking around behing your back . i would def tell him dont ever contact us again .

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I don't understand the idea of exchanging phone numbers to show that we're real before meeting. You're trusting this couple/person(complete stranger) enough to meet them somewhere for drinks/dinner(sex), but having each others phone # is the deciding factor? Our playfriends have both of our phone numbers, and we have all of theirs. We acquired the numbers as we got to know them better.

I say contact him, telling him to buzz off. Break ties. He is disrespectful and immature. If he continues, remind him of the "proof" on her phone, and tell him that he'd be wise to stop immediately. Or, just go to the Sprint/ATT store, and look into having his phone # blocked.

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I'm with Ms Sav when she says "...shows a complete lack of respect...". The person sending this to her is either A) a SM pretending to be a cpl, or B) a whackjob. In either case, it's time to wave bye-bye to this nut before it escalates into stalking and other unhappy behavior.

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I completely agree with Mrs. Sav (so what's new?) A guy should always follow the lead of the woman. You (the OP) should also accept some responsibility because it sounds like your wife encouraged or at the very least, didn't dissuade the guy from sexting so he may have felt it was ok.

Whether you decide to meet or not would depend on if you feel you can refrain from beating the crap out of the guy. I sense you have more inappropriate tendencies than the other guy.

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Have you ever told him this is inappropriate, to you? There are people who enjoy sexting, with other couples. They may be one of these couples.

If you have not told him, I think you should. Explain you are not comfortable, with it, especially while she is working. If he stops, that shows he respects boundries and I would still meet them (as long as you have made sure they are a couple). If he doesn't stop, I would not meet them and move on.

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Mrs. Sav is spot on as usual. She ought to consider writing a book of common sense for swingers. We don't share cell numbers until later in the process- Usually immediately before a get to know you meeting and by immediately before I mean on the way to the restaurant.

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Rule #1 Never give your wives phone number out before meeting. We always use his phone number. We've been caught in that same position a few times and I am extremely uncomfortable with that kind of behavior........especially if I am NOT responding nor initiating the sexts. I am not a sexter and resent any man who'd take such liberties without my expressed interest and consent. I think it crosses a line, shows a complete lack of respect and sets too much of an expectation of play upon meeting. If I were you I'd send him a text stating you find his behavior unacceptable and there will be no meeting. Understandably many it seems get off on that type of behavior and enjoy the sexy exchanges and I am not suggesting it isn't ok. What is not ok is to assume that sexting would be appreciated, desired and intriguing. All men should follow the basic rule of following the lead of the women when it comes to graphic conversations and pictures. Unless she is sending graphic photos assume she doesn't want to see yours. Unless she first texts you with explicate dialogue keep your conversation light, friendly and slightly flirty....never cross the line into pornographic conversations unless you are positive the receiver is receptive and desires such. It's a deal breaker for me as I insist a man behave like a gentleman until and only if I start to behave like less than a "lady" . Mrs Sav

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Seems pretty easy to me. I am a single woman and I dont have problems like this even when I was in a couple I didnt have this problem. Its real easy.. Tell him screw you, you blew it and go to the next.

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We'd put a stop to that right away. It sounds like he may be a single with a couple's profile.

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