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User Details are only visible to members.	Boyd May I suggest you post your follow up question in a new thread as this one has gotten bogged down in debating the minutiae from your recounting of the evening. I'm sure the issue y'all have honed in on is a common one that swingers face and I believe you'll get a variety of responses in a fresh post. holly
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User Details are only visible to members.	Boyd93. Sounds like you're equating Hot Chicks with Great sex. Sorry, to tell you. But being a Hot,Chick doesn't equate to being a Great Fuck. Ms V
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User Details are only visible to members.	I must admit, Akron, that your read between the lines appears to have caught one of the key issues Boyd is facing. Well said.
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User Details are only visible to members.	Yes, you are right Akron
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User Details are only visible to members.	It would be interesting to hear his side of the story. I say that because his answer to her doesn't quite match her "soft spoken question" I would suspect her approach was more like my wives when I turn on the news.
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User Details are only visible to members.	Thank you Scandle
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User Details are only visible to members.	She wrote "Our number one rule "Always show each other respect" And for us, feeling connected in one way or another, during the experience is an important part of playing ." As a woman and a newbie not so long ago, I can understand how important it is to adhere to the previously agreed upon rules. This was their first MFMF and the OP was a bit nervous about it. When the husband went way beyond the boundary, it was upsetting to her. Countless times in the Forums more experienced people have written about the need to continue communicating clearly with their partner, even while the action was taking place. It is not an unreasonable expectation, in my opinion, but if it doesn't happen while everyone's playing then the discussion needs to occur as soon as possible. And they've done that!
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User Details are only visible to members.	Akron... this is how the encounter began... "So the incident at the beginning. The room didn't have an Ipod dock, so we decided to have the TV on for background noise. My husband was flipping thru the channels & couldn't find any music channels. He couldn't find what he wanted, so he put the TV on "Meet the Fockers". I simply said "A comedy?" I don't want a comedy on. I was standing 2 feet from he & his partner. He said "There's nothing else. You just need to get over it!" -------------- for her, that was disrespectful, as that is not how he ever speaks to her... ..... And I do not think she is talking about 'focusing on your own partner' at all... it was more than that. i experienced it myself and is probably why i understood it right away. Maybe you havent experienced it and think she just means 'focusing completely as one should while playing'...
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User Details are only visible to members.	Akron, your paraphrasing in this case seems to be way off base. The OP has said several different ways that it was her husband's approach to the situation and his attitude of disrespect toward HER that was the problem, not the fact that he was having a good time. I agree with Akron that it was likely stretching relationship propriety to spill the beans about the husband's insecurity here. That kind of revelation was intended to be private, according to the description, and posting it here opens it up to untold numbers of strangers/pervs/potential partners.
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User Details are only visible to members.	"We had been with a couple and the male half had to mirror everything Dave and his wife were doing, like if they kissed, we kissed, if they did oral, he did oral to me, etc. It was frustrating. " ----- oh that sounds awful! :( yes, that was my OP. ...the other couple were done, got up, got dressed and just stood there!
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