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User Details are only visible to members.	The fora make for good reading But tell me, where is it all leading? The folks who most play Are the same every day. It is starting to look like inbreeding.
Amherst Canada			Username hidden (1700 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I don't think any of the advice on this thread was mean nor unkind. Some people don't like straight advice, and they want softening to go along with it for validation. It has nothing to do with hazing or keeping people from posting.
Quakertown PA			Username hidden (1831 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"It proves to you that there are people in this world who aren't as sweet and lovely as you." ------ lol... I am not always sweet, nor ever claimed to be lovely. I'm pretty sure most people are aware of this news flash about the world, but if not, all they have to do is read the news or go into the Open Forum and see it for themselves. It's obvious you and some others enjoy so much to run off new poster's there, I've seen you do it. You didn't have to do it here. (Although it does seem that the 'hazing' has been put on hold for now) "Gentleness brought us 9-11. " ---- omg, how you can bring up such a thing ...in a littly tiny dispute over such a littly tiny thing, such as criticism of yourself! Obviously you are the one that cannot take such a thing!! Too bad you are here fighting the wars 'against nice people' instead of protecting our country and the innocent lives lost in it. .... that was a disgusting comment.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"You might have issues with how it was presented or the words used, but he was spot on." ...Yes, i have those issues, and I also do not agree that he was spot on either. ----- "What would be achieved by dishonesty and buttering up ones opinion" ...I did not say ANYTHING about "dishonesty and buttering up" ... I said " gentle and/or kind. " I'm sorry if you don't see a difference.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"Given that Boyd's new to the Forums I didn't know if she'd realize that it fine to ......." ---I'm glad most noticed that Boyd was very new to the Forums. ...and i think it's too bad that some people can't remember 'being new' here in the Forums. ...it wouldn't kill anyone to be more gentle and/or kind with their so called advice, ...especially here in the 'Swingers Advice' group! It's not like it's the Open Forum where nobody has to be nice to anyone for any reason! ...(which btw, is 'why' there are no 'new' people there if anyone ever wonders) Chances are Boyd's 'first experience' here became unpleasant enough not to come back. Hopefully not.... and about this: "One other thing. My posts are always helpful. You can take or leave any advice I give you but they are intended to be helpful. Sometimes the best advice smacks you upside the head at first." ....which is it? ...are your posts always helpful or intended to be helpful? ...cause either way, they weren't.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	AKF - my post was directed to the OP though I do find it interesting that you thought it wasnt. Given that Boyd's new to the Forums I didn't know if she'd realize that it fine to pull this discussion in to a new thread. Her current question doesn't fit the headline for this thread so I was merely making a helpful suggestion. I believe she'll find a variety of helpful feedback in a thread that is specific to that issue; in fact, it might attract readers who didn't look at this thread. While I could start a new thread with her discussion topic, it's not an issue I'm facing therefore it would be challenging to answer the questions that the OP will receive.
Pittsburgh PA			Username hidden (4058 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	LMFAO. "Don't be a dingbat, Edith, we have a radio, try the FM." Songs that made the hit parade!
Amherst Canada			Username hidden (1700 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Akron, you are right on several accounts - first of all I neglected to address the insecurity issues, and I also neglected the nuance of correcting one's spouse politely as opposed to rudely. I also agree, for the most part, that one should save the analysis for after play time (though I think an uncomfortable newbie should have more leeway to raise concerns anytime they want). I confess I read the messages quickly and not with a careful, two-sided perspective. Was just thinking of the earlier "dontgiveashititis" theme and projecting it onto this situation. Just imagining "Meet the Fokkers" as a substitute for mood music might have clouded my thinking.
Amherst Canada			Username hidden (1700 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Great thread to read up at 3 am on west coast, jet lagged onto the forums. I agree with those who say the husband did nothing wrong. I also like putting slapstick comedies on tv during playtime and if my woman questions the choice I am gonna publicly slap her down. How else will she learn never to question me in public like that? What I really like about the husband is how he noticed he was upsetting his wife but he did not succumb to any inclination he might have had to change his behavior to please her. I used to think people like that are assholes, but thanks to all the wisdom others have shared with me on these fora, now I realize that he is just a very secure man, confident of who he is, unencumbered by pesky notions of empathy or growth.
Amherst Canada			Username hidden (1700 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I think they resolved the issue for the most part. But really good suggestion if they haven't. I think it was a rough thread for such a new Poster. I hope she continues to post tho. It's not easy being new here.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

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