How long does it take for a woman to have an orgasm: Swingers Discussion 39008

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TOPIC: How long does it take for a woman to have an orgasm

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User Details are only visible to members.	I found the exact same thing. Vibrators take more than they give. No human can compete with a humming machine. I refuse to use them. I either come or I don't. It a combination of factors. My main wish? Men would not insist on producing an orgasm. Having fun is the goal. Mischief<----no C batteries in her night stand
Glen Burnie MD			Username hidden (2785 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I never realized the stats for a woman to reach orgasm were so dismal! I used to have a lot of trouble reaching one, then I got the hood of my clit peirced and now reach orgasm almost every time I have sex, and most of the time it's multi-orgasmic. I reccommend it if you'd like to increase your orgasms and sensitivity. I also found that when I used a vibrator a lot it made it more difficult for me to cum during sex (course I was also using one several times a day...lol), so I cut way down on that. Has anyone else noticed a drop in orgasms after using a vibrator? I wonder if we get desensitsed (sp?) from using one.
Denham Springs LA			Username hidden (78 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Each lady will be totally different and exciting how you bring along the differences and excitment is the key What we have seen while swinging the past 7 years with the women and men,depending on where (place) determines how quickly one can acheive orgasm.We get into a groove where its almost mechanical in how we preform sex.This to us is critical, not to get caught up into routines while having sex! As examples, in the bedroom , its much different, not as fast to have an orgasm as it is on the hood of a car , kitchen counter, or any other daring creative place.Its the different and daring along with how creative you can be. You become so set in your ways that the only sex some people will have will be in a bed or on the couch or floor, to be in a different setting can create an excitement all by itself. How much flirting, how you touch or how you are touched,kissing,caressing more importantly what you say and how you treat who you are with are also great wonders of excitement. To us we have whats called standard sex, which is the norm more then the exception such as bed sex,floor sex,couch sex,legs typically in the air thrusting and busting, on all fours,missionary position.BUT when we do have a chance for creative daring out of the normal sex its unstopable,unpredictable totally erotic in both mind and physically enhancing.
Sarasota FL			Username hidden (2070 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mrs. Valovers is one of those women who typically only has orgasms about 30% of the time, and at best not more than 50% of the time over the course of a few months. Mostly it depends on how fatigued she is and how much job stress she's been handling. Both of those come & go, and so there's no way to really predict whether she is likely to have an orgasm or not. Lots of flirting, kissing, and foreplay prior to intercourse really increases her odds (think PATIENCE!). It gets that fatigue and stress off her mind and replaces it with pleasure and excitement. That won't happen without extended flirting, kissing and foreplay. Also, she seems to need more time in slow, rhythmic thrusting than most men are capable of delivering. She needs a man with enough control or stamina to hold on until she gets there. Doesn't happen often. Once her G-spot gets adequately stimulated, however, it seems to STAY aroused for a while. So the joke in our party crowd is that with Mrs. Valovers, "the first guy gets her warmed up and the next guy gets all the glory!" There may be something to that. She's had the most fun and was most successful at achieving orgasms at parties where she was with more than just one or two men during the course of the party. NOTE: She HATES being asked "Do you like this?" "What do you want me to do?", etc. For one thing, she isn't into swinging to have every guy do exactly what I do at home with her. Part of the fun is experiencing the differences in styles of love-making that comes with having more than one sex partner. If she DOESN'T like what you're doing, she'll let you know as tactfully as possible. So don't worry so much about it! Just try to learn to read body language and non-verbal "sounds" so you can tell what is pleasing her and what may not be. Don't barrage a woman with a list of questions. Do things your own way, while always being alert to the signals you'll receive that let you know if you're on the right track or not. And, once more, orgasm is NOT a requirement for a thoroughly enjoyable sexual experience, and many women may not ever have an orgasm with a man the first time or two or even three that they are together. Don't be so orgasm-focused. I've had women tell me that one of the worst things is to be with a man who thinks he just has to keep on going and going and going and is determined to keep on until the woman comes - when by now she knows full well it isn't going to happen and wishes the guy would just get the hell off her! Keep the experience a pleasant one, and don't turn it into an ordeal. If a woman isn't going to have an orgasm this time, be graceful about it and just let her know how much you've enjoyed her and that you hope to have more such wonderful times in the future. And give her a big hug and a kiss! Jim
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8165 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Basically I agree with the responses so far, that there are lots of differences among women. Let me add some detail, based on what I've experienced with swinging partners. When describing the different kinds of women, in terms of how and when they reach orgasms, one comes full circle. Let me explain. As has been stated, many women just don't experience orgasm. Many of these women will enjoy sex anyways, but orgasm is not part of their experience. There's no much you can do there; just focus on giving them whatever they enjoy the most. You explore the woman, and you'll find out; each woman is different. What seem to be universally true is that going slow and taking the time and interest to explore her always seems to be a good idea. Then many woman experience one orgasm, and that's it. In that regard they are a little like men. But even among women in this category there is a fair among of variability. Some will come rather easily and predictably, whereas for others things have to be "right" for them to come. Generally, oral stimulation prior to intercourse helps. But don't do this mechanically, as some sort of Step that you need to check off. Again, the key is to focus on each woman, and see what she likes. The better 'connected' you are with her, the better the chances that she will reach orgasm with you. Then there are the so called multi-orgasmic women. They tend to come fairly easily, just after a few minutes of pumping. And then after a few more minutes they come again, and again, etc. Things will go on until you can't last anymore, or you can bring about a conclusion at any time if she decides she's had enough. (With multi orgasmic women I tend to ask them directly after they've come about three times or so, because some are too polite to ask you to stop and you don't want to be on them longer than they want; after all you want them to have a good memory of you!). And then I've met a few women who seem to be in a category that's harder to define, and here's where we come "full circle" as I said above. They describe their sexual experience as something like "one continuous long orgasm"; and indeed they seem to be always coming but never have the explosive type of reaction that one normally associates with an orgasm. So it's a matter of how one wants to "define" orgasm, whether they experience infinitely many of them, or none at all. In either case, they enjoy the sexual experience immensely, and that's what matters, ultimately. So what's a guy to do, with all these different (and delicious all) creatures around???? I rarely, if ever, ask a woman straight out about this. Not that there would be anything wrong with it, but somehow it feels like a technical question and when I am trying to connect with a woman, the mood is not conducive to technical discussions. Once we are having intercourse, if I reach a point where I feel I can't go for much longer and they have not reached their orgasm, then at that point I'll ask them about it. Perhaps they are getting close to reaching it, in which case I'll make an effort to last a little longer. Other than this simple common-sense precaution, I wouldn't worry too much about this issue. Far more important, from the point of view of pleasing your woman, is to show her that your are interested in her (and you better be; otherwise you shouldn't be having sex with her!). By the way, you can show interest in all kinds of ways, not just sexually. Mr. Content
Pittsburgh PA			Username hidden (1153 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Not only is each woman different, but one woman can certainly have different response times on any given day, with any given partner. Sometimes takes just minutes, sometimes much longer...
Clovis CA			Username hidden (80 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	There is no formula. There is no script. Suggest the goal be about having fun. Women are not like men. Men are fairly predictable. Each woman is different. I've been playing with ladies longer than you have been alive. This is what I do. I relax. Set NO goal other than to have fun. I don't assume anything. How hard, soft, location, pressure, etc. Women that use vibrators will be hard to generate an orgasm in without one. The key? We can easily have fun without an orgasm. We can always go back to our regular partners for the final button pushing. It took me 2 weeks of intense study to figure my current out. The make them all different. That's part of the fun.
Glen Burnie MD			Username hidden (2785 post)

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