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We were trying to stay out of the fray but the OP is so off the wall we couldn't resist. Trying to picture a LTR with someone without kissing... Glory hole perhaps? As the female in a couple you can impose any rules you want on a SM if he's willing to sacrifice his dignity. We're not attracted to submissive guys and would not be attracted to anyone that would agree to such nonsense. Swinging in it's truest sense involves multiple partners. Sounds like you're not there yet. What you're describing is probably closer to polyamory. That's not a problem, but you might find more support in the poly forum. As has been said here so well many times, how can you suck a guy's dick, yet not be willing to kiss him? If sucking his dick won't make him fall in love, you have nothing to worry about kissing.

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I like kissing and feel like a sex session without it definitely lacks something important. I think from my experience, you get into more emotional/intimacy problems with language. If you are going to have an ongoing play relationship with one person it is very important to draw the lines with how and what you communicate about. Keep things lighter with your playmate and be careful not to pull the emotions and intimate closeness into it. Always make sure you are sharing those things with your spouse and not going to your playmate with them. It is exposing your intimate thoughts and feelings that brings closeness. You need to make a conscious effort to keep those lines drawn or you will naturally open up the more you know someone and then you are playing with fire.

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I'll echo what others have said: It depends on the guy. If he has no need, desire, or inclination toward developing an emotional relationship or coming between you, kissing will not be a problem. If he's not like that, not kissing won't prevent a problem.

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No kissy, no fucky. We both feel that way.

Jim

Culpeper VA
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"We get what you say here but we play with ONE guy long term. She wants to leave emotions out of it. "

It would not be a sure fire guarantee that not kissing would equal no emotions. If you (she) is dead set on there being no emotion at all then perhaps long term FWB is not the best plan? I would think it would be tricky to see someone over and over and not have some level of connection even if just a friendly one.

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For us its a very important part of the foreplay as well as during sex. If a couple has a no kissing rule they're not for us. We have no jealousy issues or fear one of us will be tempted to stray outside the lifestyle merely because of a good passionate kisser.

Princeton NJ
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Oh, okay. I see. Guess it depends on the other guy. That's always a risk with a long-term playmate, I suppose. Good luck!

Tempe AZ
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We both love it, and consider kissing the ultimate foreplay. One of the few "rules" we have is that we don't play with couples who are "no kissing". I agree with the post stating that if you're afraid of kissing being too "romantic", you should re-think being in the LS.

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If you are worried about a fwb falling in love w/ her, then you need to step back, or out of this swinging thing. Seriously.

The kissing sometimes is the most erotic part of swinging, or can be. We both enjoy it. It's great arousal and anticipation.

G.

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For me (the female of the couple) it is very important. I love to kiss and love to be kissed. It states in our profile if you have a no kissing rule to please pass us by. I don't think kissing leads to falling in love, it just builds arousal and passion. I had a two year ongoing FWB and we kissed all the time. There are guys at the club we go to that I will kiss and haven't ever played with them.

hmmm maybe along with my texting addiction I have a kissing addiction lol.

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