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TOPIC: How do we approach a vanilla couple about swinging
Created by: ComeGetSome585
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We recently met a couple outside of the lifestyle and we're both interested in them. We're not sure how sexually adventurous they are. We would like to stay friends either way so we're looking for advice on how to bring it up without making them too uncomfortable if they're not into it.

Thanks in advance for any feedback!

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I would very much like to know how this pans out over time. Keep us posted

Lexington KY
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We have been hanging out with them whenever we all have time and it's been alot of fun. We took the advise of some of the posters here and are taking it slowly. We also have some games that lead to very open conversations. (Off topic: you should all play "Cards Against Humanity" - you can get it for free online and print it out) They are not prudes and the wife was VERY interested in trying nudist camping, too bad for us that it's only warm here for 3 months a year and that just ended. :(

Keep your fingers crossed and we'll keep you posted about our progress!

Happy Halloween!

Greece NY
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Yes please, Andre.

Chesapeake VA
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"anyone want a peanut?"

Orlando FL
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Change it to "Vote Dukakis '88" or something dated :P

Chesapeake VA
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reminds me i need to change ours

Orlando FL
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I like their tag line.

Chesapeake VA
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i can certainly see why folks might be open to following her... um... you guys that is, down a path toward new adventures. ;)

Orlando FL
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We have actually brought several people into the lifestyle that were vanilla and for us at least, it's all about how they get along. If they don't have any jealousy issues and are fairly well balance people. We have several board games (sexy slang, loaded questions) that work as good ice breakers for talking about sex to help figure out where they are at. Plus, although we haven't use it, I hear drinking games like "I never" is another great way to figure out where people are will to go sexually. However, be warned. That the couple that told us that, said it worked out but they lost very very quickly because one couple being vanilla and open to the lifestyle knew all the right things to ask after "have you kissed a girl before" was asked.

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I always say take it very slow, I know before we even ended up in swinging my wife always had a way of getting people to talk about sex, it seems to be her thing. She joked with her Vanilla friend about me wanting to bang her and stuff off and on for awhile and after we decided to give the LS a try she mentioned it to her friend that I was getting with other women and then her and her husband slowly got interested in giving it a try so we got to be the ones to break them in for the first time and they ended up joining the site and wanted to slowly venture some more. Its always possible they might be interested or even feel attractions themselves but not wanting to show it. Just gradually share with them about you being in the LS but in a way where your not trying to push it on them and just see where things lead to over time.

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